Ive known my best friend for about 9 years now and since the end of last year, she's been hanging out with a bunch of dramaful losers who are hated on at school and get really bad grades and everything cause shes in a dance group with them. And because they talk so much **** about anyone who does a thing thats a little wierd, i feel shes trying desparately hard to be accepted by them. She always talks about how she doesnt like any of them yet the next second shes running up to them and sucking up. Ive noticed that shes becoming more selfish and narrowminded to me lately. I'm worried our friendship's goin down the crapper. What should I do?
2006-06-14 16:40:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks a lot, guys!
2006-06-14 16:55:26 · update #1
Well it looks like she is making her decision, now it's time to make yours.
2006-06-14 16:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like your friend is trying to find her way ,who she is ect ,maybe she feels more accepted by this group of kids as you have stated .she feels like she belongs and everybody needs that in thier lives.since they are all dancers that must be a interest of your friends ,what are her other ones ? why dont you ask her what interests her and why she like being with this group of kids? you have been friends for 9 years just talk and dont take offense, let her know that you miss hanging w/ herand that you will always be her friend and maybe you could get to know these other kids also ,they might not be all that bad and if they are hated on at school they probably were forced to start there own little group there is safety in numbers , your friend wants to be friends w/ them and you why should she have to choose ? why cant she have many friends of different interest sounds like there is discrimination in your school why dont you be the first or at least one of the kids that show how much each of you matter and that you all have somthing to offer eachother. learn to dance w/ your friend its fun and freeing ... enjoy these years they go by fast! and good friends are a gift!
2006-06-14 23:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell it like it is. If she's not willing to listen, find a new friend. I know that's hard but basically she's hanging out with the wrong crowd. Let her make her mistakes the hard way. Hopefully, she'll realize that those people whom she calls "friends" aren't really her friends. Why would she talk a lot of s**t about them, then later she sucks up to them? That doesn't make any sense. Eventually, she'll realize that she has lost a wonderful friend like you. She has decided who her friends are, so it is up to you to decide who your friend is.
2006-06-14 23:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it go there comes a time when you have to realize that certain people just aren't part of your life path, it doesn't mean you don't care about her ti just means that you're not supposed to be in eachothers life like that. it's a tough concept to grasp and i just recently came to grips with it and had to weed several peole out of my life my best friend of 10 years included. so, i know how you feel right now i hope that you can come to some kind of peace with what's goin' on good luck!!
2006-06-14 23:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by *steelers* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. If this is all it takes for her to stop being friends with you and go to another group then your friendship wasn't that strong to begin with.
2006-06-14 23:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's you're friend you can be truthful.
Just be tactful and try to start your statements with " I feel.."
instead of "You..."
Usually your gut feeling is right. Friends deserve a chance though- good luck.
2006-06-14 23:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new friend and let go. unless you are jealous and want to hang out and they ignore you she has a right to decide who she wants to be friends with just like you do
2006-06-14 23:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think she growing up and needs to start making her own mind up. give her some space but if she needs you be there for her but you dont have to worry about your friendship friends always change but she will know your there for her
2006-06-14 23:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by yayo_upin_disbitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to tell ur friend how u feel... ur friend might not know how u feel about the situation...
2006-06-14 23:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by dai_donut_209 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound jealous. . .all you can do is be her friend nd if it works out, great. If not then move on
2006-06-14 23:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by Shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋