In an already unsteady marriage, today my husband thought it was funny to tell his 18 year old daughter to kiss my *** because he's in a mood... would you consider that disrespectful to me?
2006-06-14 16:38:30 · 33 answers · asked by emeraldeyesmiles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
duh.. sorry.. I meant to kick my butt.. not kiss it... sorry!!
2006-06-14 16:40:47 · update #1
even later tonight ... my parents came over to talk to him about how he has been treating me and he still thought it was funny that he told her to do that.. this is his daughter from his first relationship.. he told her to kick my butt and when i looked at him he was like.. i'm serious.. but then i confronted him, and then all of a sudden he was joking... and even after me getting upset.. still thinks its funny
2006-06-14 16:46:37 · update #2
Highly disrespectful and mentally abusive. You don't deserve that. You need to put your foot down with this man and tell him what you expect of your relationship. I hate to say this, but he doesn't deserve you. If he can't commit to respecting you and making his daughter respect you, then your marriage is about over with. Give him some time to think about it. Maybe you can stay with your parents for a couple of nights or weeks? You never know what you really got until its gone. Good luck to you and don't put up with abuse.
2006-06-14 17:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That was totally disrespectful. I guess you now have to question your relationship with your husband...if he gets in "these" kinda moods. Now, is this your daughter as well? or just his? If it is his, it shows that he doesn't have respect for you as being her step-mother and is allowing his daughter to use you as a door mat. Now, if this is YOUR daughter as well, her behind needs to taste a piece of reality! Your husband has no respect for you if he is telling an 28 year old to kick your behind. None whatsoever! That is very childish. Based only on the information you listed, I can only say that the disrepect runs deep, and if this sort of disrespect just started, watch out cause there's much more to come!
2006-06-14 16:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by smiling cutie pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds extremely disrespectful. Such comments can be made palatable if the people involved have a good relationship in which each person feels secure in their love for one another and their communication with one another, but in an "unsteady" marriage, such comments seem designed to incite a fight.
If your husband claims that he made the remark without thinking, that's all the worse, because his resentment and frustration have sunk into subconscious levels, and it may be even harder for you to make him change his behavior/perspective, than if he were consciously angry and had been trying to hurt you.
2006-06-14 16:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Elspeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be extremely upset if I were you. He put you and your daughter in an awkward situation with that remark. I would give him an ear full behind that and if he is still in a bad mood tell his daughter to kick his *** and see how he likes it.
2006-06-14 16:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes thats very disrespectful to you as his wife and stepmother to that daughter. TEll him how it made you feel and how upset you are. Just be honest about it. Being in a bad mood is no excuse for behavior like that no matter who you are.
2006-06-14 16:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by clarivee82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are in bad moods, they say a lot of crap that they shouldn't or don't really mean in the first place. Yes, it's disrespectful to you, but I'm sure he didn't mean it, probally was just in a pissy mood. He'll get over it.
2006-06-14 16:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by CrazyBiitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very disrespectful
He tell him that I said that he should always treat his with utmost respect, tenderness and love no matter what mood he is in. If he is upset he should vent his frustration with a hobby rather than doing something that would hurt his best friend.
2006-06-14 16:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Track Walker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that sure is disrespectful... What does he mean hes in a mood???? This actually seems sick! Wow and yes i would be mad and upset over this!
2006-06-14 16:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that isn't nice. you have every right to be mad and feel disrespected.
But you have to let it go. Unless it happens all the time, you said he was in a mood.
If he's always like that... get some outside help.
2006-06-14 16:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because how is she supposed to respect you and listen to you if he's telling her stuff like that. That was very disrespectful to you because it make it sound like he doesn't respect you a whole lot and doesn't expect his daughter to either.
2006-06-14 16:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋