Whats the best way to have sex with out getting pregnet at 15 years old?

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for a while now. and yes i am 15 years old. my hormones are running crazy and i dont know what to do. im afraid if i use a condom it will break. and some lady read through my mom (( tarot cards )) that it is possible the first time i have sex i can possibly get pregnet. what do i do???

Answer 1

Please think very seriously before making this decision and if you going to have sex please go to your local health department and get some birth control and be sure your bf uses a condom as well.

Answer 2

IF you are ready to have sex and you are SURE you are ready.... and I do recommend abstinence of course....go to Planned Parenthood and speak to them about birth control. If you don't have the money, they can work on a sliding scale and not charge you a lot or at all. There are various methods that they can talk to you about and if you don't want your mom/parents to find out they can keep it confidential from her/them. You CAN get pregnant the first time so you have to be protected.

DO NOT use two condoms at once...they cause friction rubbing together and cause tears which will allow the sperm to get through and impregnate you...you could also get STD's. I would recommend the above mentioned forms of birth control- pill, shot, patch, whatever...AND the use of a condom. Your boyfriend will probably not want to use one but DO IT. You can catch so many different diseases and although your boyfriend may say he's a virgin...he could be lying. Also, no birthcontrol is always 100% effective so the condom is an additional back up for you.

Please be sure you are ready and after you do make that major decision to do it...always remember you can change your mind and stop doing it if you want...it's your body, it's your decision. Just be wise because you have to live with your decisions the rest of your life...I work with too many young teenagers with lifelong STD's or who are becomming mothers for the first time and they just wish they could go back and do it all over again and say no. Good luck.

Answer 3

Other then oral.... you will get pregnent.

Condoms don't always work. That's how I got my first son.

I would avoid the depo shot. I know people who have gotten pregnet on it and I had a blood clot in my lung from it. There is a big law suit going on with that right now because a lot of teenagers are dying from blood clots to to the shot and the pill.

I would hold back on you hormones for right now. As I told someone else... think of it like this.... you are ready to have sex if..
1) you can fully support a child on you own? That means no help
from the goverment, the babies father, or your parents.
2) Are you ready to give up the next 18 years of your life to take
care of a child and put it's needs first?

Children are a huge responsibility. A good parent doesn't pawn their kids off on a baby sitter all the time so they can go out and party. It is really hard. Babies are very cute but do you want to get up every three hours or so to feed him/her? Could you handle taking care of him/her when they are up with the flu... throwing up all over you?

Really think about what it would be like to have kids. Talk to people about what it's like. Talk to adults and people your age that have kids. And when you ask yourself if you want to have sex right now at your age... think about what I've said to you.

Please know that I am talking from experiance. I had my first son when I was 16. You want to get your boyfriend to dump you real quick.... tell him your pergnent. So please think about what I said.
I don't mean to weird anyone out but if your hormones bother you that much then learn to masterbate.

Answer 4

Well, I have read many articles about birth control and contraceptives. And I think the best way to have sex without getting perscription drugs from a physician is to use a condom. And to enhance the birth control capabilities of that condom, you can use spermicide, a chemical you can use along side a condom that kills sperm, usually available where condoms are. Though this can help, it is not perfect. And it is always best to wait and evaluate if you are mentally ready to have sexual intercourse. Especially at your age, because it can dramatically change your life and affect your future, not just physically but also mentally. Just remember not to let sexual intercourse meddle with other, more important things in your life, like school and other things that are responsible for creating your future, and the rest of your life.

Answer 5

I would just recommend abstinance at your young age. Could you imagine caring for a baby while your a freshman in high school?

There's always the choice of having him wear two condoms which would be very hard to break through, but he probably wouldn't enjoy that. I guess you could get on birth control pills and also still use a condom, to protect against venereal diseases.

Still, 15 is so young to be making a decision like this. I hope you'll rethink it first. You have plenty of love-making years in your future. Why not just stick with fun foreplay for now? You might end up being glad you did. :o) Good luck.

Answer 6

Honestly, there is no way to have sex at any age without the possibility of getting pregnant, save you have been completely through menopause or you have had surgery to prevent pregnancy.
15 is a bit young to be making the decision to give away something that you will wish you had kept a bit longer. Hormones have a way of getting in the way of good decision making.
Read most older teens and adults memories of first times and the statistics show that the majority will say they wish they had waited. And one last thing to remember, if he loves you,(and why else would you want to have sex with him if he doesnt) he will help you control your hormones and vise versa. Love waits, lust siezes the moment.

Answer 7

Dear Amandita:
If you can't spell pregnant you're too young to indulge in it. Have patience. I know it's hard when you're "in love" but running the risk of becoming pregnant at 15 is 'way too risky. Enjoy some growing up time before you completely change your life by becoming pregnant. CONDOMS CAN BREAK and sometimes the "urge" is so strong you might risk having sex without protection.

Don't get me wrong, I love babies and I loved being a mom to all four of mine! But believe me, if you should become pregnant at 15, you'll be missing out on a lot of the fun times that your non-pregnant friends will enjoy for several more years.

Hormones are there for more reasons than "having sex". Correctly in balance they make a healthy young woman.

Think ahead. The young man you're anticipating having sex with might not be in your life next year!

Sex is good when you're mature enough to accept the results.
I hope that you will enjoy your wonderful teenage years having good clean fun - perhaps including volunteer work to keep busy and having fun - in addition to educating yourself so that your adult life will be wonderful - with lots of good sex with a wonderful guy!

The "good" feeling will still be there in a couple of years and perhaps in the meantime you could take some more classes in sex education - to help you make wise decisions.

I married at 18. I have four grown children, nine grandchildren and one great grandson...only one of whom became pregnant out of wedlock and she has had a really rough time since then. Her too young husband turned out to be very immature as well as a drug user...not a good atmosphere for her darling son.

Have a wonderful life.

Gee-Gee

Answer 8

First of all...You shouldn't be having sex at 15!And those hormones act up like that for EVERY girl in the 14-16 year old age group!But having sex isn't the answer!

Answer 9

I know the temptation is there to have sex. I was always the one who said when I get married. I met the man who is now my husband. We dated for a year he knew how I felt. One night we sat down and really discussed the whole matter. My reasons for waiting were foolish. I did not wanted to get my heart broken. No one else I was with before I trusted to give something to that is so precious that you can not take back. Yes you may be to young but really sit down by yourself and think do you really love this man that if you were to get pregnant that you would want him always in your life. If the answer is no then wait. Who knows where your life will go at 15. I for sure did not know. If the answer is yes to really loving this man then get on the pill and talk to your mother. She will always be your best source and shoulder to cry on. I waited till I was 21 to have sex for the first time. I am now 24 and I have never regreted my decision. My husband has told me if was until we got married he still would have waited for me. I was not his first but I know his past and he has been tested. This how I know he truly loves me. If this man truly loves you he will wait till your ready. Do life on your terms not someone elses.

Answer 10

Dont thats disgusting Whether you use protection or not there still is a chance of getting pregnant think about it are you responsible enough to deal with the pain and the frustration do you really want to kill it either and think about how would you like to grow up in an orphanage not knowing your mom or dad not so cool huh sex isnt as cool as it sounds sometimes its not worth taking that chance is it

Answer 11

Don't have sex, if your hormones are going crazy go take care of it yourself... If your not ready to deal with the consequences of something then your not ready to do it..

But if you do have sex make sure he wears a condom properly (with room at the tip) have him hold the condom and pull out when he ejaculates, and use spermicide too... and last but not least get on birth control...