HOW CAN i TAKE A TEDDY BEAR AWAY FROM mY 4 YR. OLD SON?

Question

I wouldn't do this at such a young age, but my wife says I have to because he is too old, she tells me that men don't know how to handle a child, so i have to do as she pleases when it comes to my son..... any advice?

Answer 1

i went through the same so just hide it and say you dont know where its at let him look for it as much as he wants then he will get tired of it and totally forget about it well at least mine did

Answer 2

Just my opinion, but children usually cling to an object when they need security. To take his teddy bear away I think would be very difficult for him now. Does your wife work outside the home? This could be his way of finding a secure "person" to be with. I don't see the harm in an attachment to a bear. I personally wouldn't mind if my kids had such an attachment. I think it's training him for future relationships to be close to something, even if it's not human. I could be wrong though. :)

Answer 3

You and your wife should be agreeing on how to raise your son. But it sounds as if you are polar opposites. I see absolutely no reason why a 4 year old boy should have his teddy bear taken away from him. He'll eventually outgrow his need for stuffed animal friends. As for men not knowing how to handle children, she's dead wrong! My second husband helped me raise my 2 sons. There were 7 and 12 when we got married. They've grown into fine men and fathers. Both are very involved in raising their children. Your wife is doing your son and you a disservice in trying to prevent you from actively parenting your son. He will learn the most about how men are supposed to act by observing you. You are the most important male role model he will ever have. Not to be mean, but stop being a wimp. Tell your wife that you are both his parents and should both be equally involved in raising him. If you 2 can't come to terms then it's time for some marriage and family counseling. I pray it works out. God bless!

Answer 4

Children who still have a Teddy or suck their thumb or have a Blankie have these things for a reason and when they're ready to give them up they will. You can let him know there are times when he can't take the Teddy with him such as in school. But you can tell him to let you take care of Teddy while he's in school and Teddy will be waiting for him when he comes home. Children need these things for security. How mean and selfish to take them away before they're ready. Children are not miniature adults they are children who need us and sometimes a Teddy to make it in this strange and sometimes scary world. It sounds like your son is going to need you on his side as he's growing up, be there for him.

Answer 5

I'm sorry but I politely disagree with your wife as a mother to a mother. Your child is only a child once. And so what if he still wants his teddy bear (or blankie or whatever other comfort item). I'm speaking from personal experience here. My son slept with a blankie until he was around six years old. After around age two he stopped carrying it all over with him and only had it to sleep with. And this was fine with me and my husband. We as adults may do the same thing and not judge or criticize ourselves for it. How many adults have a certain pillow that they sleep with/on and it has to go on trips with them? And how many people sleep on a certain type or feel of sheets ( or certain kind of blanket)? This usually is because it's what is comfortable to us. This is the same thing with a child and their favorite toy/ stuffed animal or blankie. It's what's comfortable to them and when they are ready to release it, they will. Too many kids are forced into maturing and growing up too fast in today's society. Let them be kids for as long as they want because these are times and memories that you won't get back.

Answer 6

Hes only 4. Let him keep it. Is your wife trying to prove a point? Im a single dad with 3 kids (19, 15, 11) but im no expert. BTW they all have teddy bears.

Answer 7

i'd somewhat see 13 12 months olds who rejoice with cuddling a teddy undergo or fidgeting with dolls than obtainable having grownup relationships in the previous they are waiting or actually have a clue what existence is about. i'd say a prayer of thanks. Teddys will be a effective custom to commence amassing to bypass on to her little ones at the same time as she is a mom.

Answer 8

You CAN'T do that!!
He is to little - he loves that Teddy Bear!
Take away the most favorite thing your wife
has and see how she feels.
No, no, please do not take that Teddy bear away!
I am old enough to be somebodies grandma and I
still have a whole bunch of Teddy Bears from
when my boys where little. I will pass them on to
their children. I love those Teddy bears.
Oh, the memories. Your little boy should have
wonderful memories about that TEDDY BEAR>

Answer 9

why would you want to do such a thing. that's what childhood is all about, love, security, innocence, affection. let him choose when he wants to give it up. advice for your wife. eave the child alone. she sounds as if she doesn't know how to handle a child. where is her compassion. i don't mean to sound harsh but children are our gifts and for us to love and cherish and guide. not to dictate and punish. yes there are times discipline is called for but taking a teddy bear is just cruel.!
good luck.

Answer 10

Tell your wife to grow the hell up. Kids need security creatures, whether its a blanket or bear. If he didn't still need the bear, he wouldn't be holding on to it. I suspect its her attitude that is causing his insecurity. Let him keep the bear. Make her let him keep the bear because She obviously has no clue about how to raise a child. You don't handle them, you love them!

Answer 11

do not do that. are u stupid? why would u abuse your poor little child like this? he likes teddy bear let him have it even if he is 20 years old. he doesn't hurt anybody with his bear, does he?
ps. tell your wife to go **** herself and do not touch your little son. i presume she is not the real mother of your biy. u better find another , better woman, who doesn't want to molest little boy. DO NOT TAKE HIS TEDDY BEAR
i cant believe all those people actually gave u advice how to do that. so many abusive adults