i was raped and now im pregnant should i keep the baby or get an abortion??? i want the child but i dont . my mom knows what happend, she said it was up to me if i wanted to keep the baby or not.
2006-06-14 15:37:50 · 46 answers · asked by babykhi16 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
it was my ex-best friend who did it
2006-06-14 15:42:57 · update #1
Getting an abortion is a serious, risky thing. Risky emotionally, and also physically. No abortionist or Planned Parenthood femme will tell you the horrors that await your baby/fetus, and they certainly will not tell you the guilt and trauma you'll have to deal with or the long-term effects such as increased risk of cancer and other diseases.
As to whether you should keep it or give it up for adoption, you should check out the latter option with local agencies, both private and governmental - NOW, rather than after you've given birth. Search online for adoption info. Enlist the help of your most trusted friend, preferably an adult if not your mom, in doing this research and making this decision that will affect your life permanently.
2006-06-14 16:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by im_a_fun_nut 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only you can make that decision. Either way it's really hard. If you have an abortion that memory will be with you forever but now might not be the best time to have a child and the pain of the rape may just be too much. Even if you decide you cannot keep the child if you think you are strong enough to go through with the pregnancy you should consider adoption because there are so many people out there hoping for a child.
In any case, as long as you are at peace witht he choice you made then it was the right thing to do.
2006-06-14 15:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Beccawho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it. Don't abort it because of what you went through. That was bad and I feel for you but you have the chance to bring new life into the world. I don't know what that must have been like but it wasn't the baby's fault. If you don't want it give to someone who does. There are too many people out there who want a kid and can't have one. If you just can't keep it, look for an adoption agency. That baby shouldn't have to suffer for what his father did. It's YOUR baby and even though you weren't trying to have it I still think you should keep it. Along with that get some counseling for what happened to you move on with your life and let your baby have a life. Aborting a kid is killing it. Do you think you can go around for the rest of your life knowing that YOU killed a child??? Think about it!!!
2006-06-14 16:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by KAI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot do an abortion, i know it is not your fault that you got pregnant, but it is not the babies fault either and that is why you shouldnt make the baby pay. You also have to have in mind that what you have inside of you is not a thing, but it is a living person and doing the abortion would be like murdering your own son. Something that you could do though if you dont want the baby, is after he/ she is born, you can put him/her in adoption so that a loving family can take care of him/her.
good luck and i hope that you make the right choice.
2006-06-14 21:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by john 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get an abortion. They are not only killing a life, they can also cause medical problems for yourself, and you may never be able to have a child again. If you can't raise the baby put it up for adoption or take it to a local police station or fire department. If you decide to keep the baby make sure you will be able to rely on help from those around you. Good luck!
2006-06-14 15:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe in abortions, especially i your case. Yet, the final decision is yours. I suggest you take a sheet of paper and fold it in half. On one side, write down all the reasons why you should have it. On the other side, write the reasons why you shouldn't. Then compare the two sides.
Many first time mothers don't realize that having a child changes so much in their life. You really have to be ready for that extra responsibility. And, you have to think about your goals... how will having a child at this point in your life change them.
Most important, it seems that you have your mom's support either way. The decision is yours and let it be yours. Don't let me or anybody else make you feel bad, whatever you decide to do.
2006-06-14 16:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by IGOTDAGIFT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom sounds like she would help you out . This is a decision
that your going to have to make yourself, the baby is an innocent little life. If you think that it would be best to give it up for adoption because your only 16 then put it up for adoption. If not then keep the baby and raise and love him?her. good luck with what ever you decide. ( I don't believe in abortion,but it's not my decision or my choice to make.)
2006-06-14 15:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you. This would be a terrible predicament to be in. There is a third option to your question though--adoption or you could even arrange a private adoption. Today there are so many couples who would love to have children but can't get them because abortion has made babies in extremely short supply. This way, you would be able to insure your child has a loving home, but not have to be reminded of what happened to you. You sound like you care about your child, but are still ambiguous. I really believe that this is the best solution to your delema.
2006-06-14 15:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by kc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I want to say I'm sorry that in your life you had to cross paths with such a horrible person.
Second you are so lucky to have a mother that you can talk to about things like this, to this day my mother doesn't know I was pregnant at 16.
Third- The decision is yours you can't expect anyone else to decide your future. Take into consideration all aspects of your life and then decide what you will do.
All I know is at 16 I wasn't ready for a child but I'm a selfish person and I wasn't willing to give up my life for that child. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-15 12:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by Trish H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that needs prayer. Let me ask you something. Do you want to be a MOM? You can decide to make something good out of a bad experience or you can decide to let yourself try to forget it. I have been raped and although I never got pregnant from the rape I am a MOM and God's greatest gift to us is children. No one has the right to condemn you for your choices only God has the right to judge us. I offer my prayers that you can make a decision that you can live with. Remember it is not the baby's fault or your fault so do not let the rapest have even more power over you so as to influence your decision. Rev. Leal
2006-06-14 15:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Rev.Leal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋