the one you love but who doesn't love you back or the one who loves you but you don't really love?
2006-06-14 15:34:59 · 43 answers · asked by krisskastle 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Neither.There are plenty of fish in the sea.I don't need another person to validate my awesomeness.
2006-06-14 15:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the second answer. The love of my life is my 10 year olds Dad we tried for 12 years and I would still be trying but he moved on and I settled for what is now the new love of my life. As long as there are deep feelings there they can turn to love. If you don't relly like him at all I wouldn't do it there has to be some sort of connection. Good lick in whatever decision. You know you could just start all over. Maybe there is someone even better for you than either one of the men you are talking about.
2006-06-28 12:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. If you are asking for personal reasons - take my word. Run away from both. I'm 40yrs old in a few days and I can tell you this first hand. I chased the one I loved for 9 years and he broke my heart badly in the end. I walked away from the one who loved me and it turned out to be the right decision. He would have been what I term: settling for second best. And I personally would rather be alone than lonely and bored and wishing for something else. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-06-14 15:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by hockeytoys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather be with the one that leaves me but I don't really love. I have been with someone I really loved and didn't love me back the same way and that was a long ride on the emotional roller coaster. I wouldn't want to put someone else in that position but if I have to choose between the two I pick someone being in love with me :).
2006-06-14 15:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Playmate3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 57 and I can STILL relate to that. I think that every girl , and I mean EVERY girl, has thought about this. To love someone but to not be loved by him, is very painful. To stay with someone who loves you but you do not love is not fair to him. It's wrong to string someone along. Guys have feelings too. Guys are probably laughing at our answers...that's if they cared to read any of them. I don't think that guys have this problem. If they do , then it's a small percentage of them. I think they just move on when things don't go their way. After all these years I'm beginning to think they might be on the right path!
2006-06-28 15:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the one who I don't love. Love is a commitment. You grow to love someone and the life you share. The one who loves you will be there for you, always trust you, always give to you, always protect you. If someone loves you, you are blessed. The one you love will only use you until he fines another person. He will walk all over you, mistreet you and never to give you back love in return. You would have a empty life. The one who loves you, he is special man. Open your eyes. Ask Zella
2006-06-28 15:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who loves you, but you don't really love...if you have to choose. Finding someone who truly loves you is hard. Think about how arranged marriages worked when there was no alternative, couples learned to love each other. Now-a-days they don't work because there are choices....unless you have a really good mind set (like the children in Mormon families....BTW, I'm not Mormon).
2006-06-28 14:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by sgeorges13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be serious, girl. You need to learn to love being loved. Or does the problem lie within you? Maybe you feel you don't deserve to be loved, so you go for the ones that cannot return the love you have for them. I would put my money on the one that loves you. You'll be glad you did!!
2006-06-28 15:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by joy g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep looking until you find the right one that you Love and Loves you back. Life is too short to waste being unhappy!
2006-06-28 15:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by CawgDawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say neither!! But if I had to choose one, I'd go with the second one, just to be safe. Who knows?! You could grow to love him one day.
2006-06-28 14:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by jennaniles9893 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bind yourself to either of them and you won't be available to notice when the 'right' one is standing there in front of you!
Instead, live your life with enthusiasm, totally absorbed in what you do and love... Doing that, WHO you love will be an inevitible, serendipitous accident and more likely to be a lasting match based on common interests instead of hormonal highs.
2006-06-28 04:34:21 · answer #11 · answered by toastposties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋