Do I tell him? I am at a loss here. He the father has not been able to see his daughters for over a year, not for lack of trying. Despite a court order for visitaions etc.. now I found provoctive photos and language ..one girl who is 11 lists herself as being 19.. the other has racy pics of herself and the follow up comments are more than suggestive. Do I show him and hope he doesn't have a heart attack? On the other hand it could show that the mother who has custody rights is negligent in her parenting (or lack of them skills)I am just sick over this and don't know what to do.
Help!!
2006-06-14 15:14:45 · 11 answers · asked by neelyohara2004 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would not show him. Many young people today have blogs and list themselves as older than they so that they can create and account. They may put suggestive pictures and comments up on the blog but unless they are nude or advertising for sex, the mother is not going to lose custody. This is a very sad and complex situation. If you tell him, you will only make your fiance feel bad about his little baby and not being there for her as he would like. Also, think about it, do you truly want your fiance to get custody of his kids back from his ex? The kids sound like they have been more than a little traumatized from their upbringing -- are you ready to take on that kind of need? Best is to stay out of it or if you feel you must get involved, anonymously mail the info to the mom.
2006-06-14 15:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by andrewilliano 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I would suggest that you sit down and talk to your fiance' about it. It's not really fair to say that the mother is negligent because she probably doesn't know either. From personal experience, I am the fiance of a man with a child and I have learned that it is best to let him work out those types of issues with the mother. You really never know both sides to a story. The mother could be negligent, but it's not for you to assume. I just think you should allow him to address it. This doesn't mean you can't be his voice of reason and give advise.
2006-06-14 15:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by tonyag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any responsible adult would tell him. He needs to be aware of the lack of parenting going on with his ex in charge. This could support grounds for taking the children away from her. He needs to know so that he can do his job as a parent to protect his daughter.
How would you feel if it was your daughter with the myspace page and you found out your BF knew about it and didn't tell you?
2006-06-16 13:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Betsy Jayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the 11 year old might not be able to get the age all the way down to 11 and it isnt really for 11 year olds they are the stupid ones no offens that think o well we are going to be in like middle school next year we are so cool so we need to get all this stuff but they have no i dea so yeah tell you future husband thats wht i would do he might not like wht they have on there.
2006-06-14 16:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by soccerknocker199 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only would I show him I would print out EVERY page of it (twice). One copy for you and one copy to show the court.
Myspace has seriously led to some bad things for young girls, it is the PERFECT place for a predator to look for victims.
I wish you only the best of luck, it is a horrible situation.
2006-06-14 16:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, i think he would love that fact that you where honest enough to tell him. And it may not help in court because kids do silly things, i recently found my 14yr sister pretending to be 18 and found messages on her phone that was more then disturbing as they meet over the internet, i told her gaurding and he was glad that i had told him.
2006-06-14 16:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by KLAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start a conversation with him and then tell him show him the pictures. I am sure he might get a bit confused at first but everything will be ok.
good luck.
2006-06-14 21:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by john 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK 1.) it is myspace.com but that dose not matter!
2.) delete his myspace and tell him why you did it and tell him not to get on it till he lears in lesson!!
2006-06-15 16:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him. and you are right about it showing her lack of parenting skills.
2006-06-14 15:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and let him contact the mother those pictures need to be removed
2006-06-14 15:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by tpuahlekcip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋