my first love has left me,we were togeather for 8 years,we have three children,we had all ower firsts with one another,we made love fore the first time when we were both 13,we are now 25, i want her back........
2006-06-14 15:12:24 · 19 answers · asked by mrlonelee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think we have the same problem. i'm sorry it happened that way but im sure trying to work things out is easiest by talking things over and doing wat is best for BOTH of you.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-20 11:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by the girl next door 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry for your mishap. The only advice can give to you is very straightforward. First, you need to assess what it is in the relationship that went wrong. If you do not know talk to her and find out. The first thing to fixing something if it is fixable is to know what went wrong.
Second- you say you have been with her forever- have you ever thought maybe she is questioning if you are the right person, if she has missed something by being with you. I know that sounds sad but sometimes when you have been with one person for a long time and you have experienced everything wih that one person, then you feel like you haven't lived. Ask her if that is the case. Trust maybe she needs some time away no matter how long that might be.
Start there---
2006-06-14 23:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Summer S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just started a little to early. But, in the first place, "in love with" and loving her are two different things. If you were just in love, then I'm surprised it lasted 8 years, because being in love cannot be sustained by anyone. It's an emotion and not a fact. A fact is that you love her and you want her back. Start thinking that; that you love her.
Then the question is, does she love you. Obviously she has fallen "out of love" with you, which is the easiest thing in the world to do in a marriage. But if she loves you, that is she still has love for you in her mind, as a part of her being, then you might get her back. Unless there's some deeper reason for her not to come back, then chances are she could actually fall in love with you again, but as a result of her state of mind of love for you, not just a romantic notion.
Do you see the difference then between "in love" and love? I hope so. It's an important distinction.
2006-06-14 22:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, she left you. Time is on your side. Keep being the person you are. Be truthful to yourself. If you did things to hurt her you need to make amends for that. Otherwise just be you. If you really want her back, don't force the issue, until she does. You will have plenty of time to see her to show that you still care, don't do any more than a friend would do. Remember, if you love someone let them go, if they come back they belong to you. (or something like that)
Blessings
2006-06-14 22:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Glynis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad as it may seem you just can't make someone stay in love with you. The best thing that you can do is give it some time and if she does not come back to you then you will have to pick up the pieces and carry on. I wish you the best.
PS....try to give her some space to think things through.
2006-06-14 22:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by lele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you can not make someone who has fallen out of love with you fall back in love with you! Yes, you have a history, but, there has to be a reason why she's no longer feeling you; it may be your fault, it may be hers. You could talk to her, but do not do so with the expectation of getting back together with her.
2006-06-14 23:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by nanabuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend to her, a good friend that always there for her, don't let her use you though. But if she has fallen in love with you back then, there is a good chance she will do it again if you stick around long enough.
2006-06-14 23:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make someone love you. It is so hard to get over your first love but eventually you will. I know you think that you wont love anyone as much as you love her but you will. Talk to her and see why she left and if it is fixable. If she has moved on you have to, too.
2006-06-14 22:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make someone love you, there is a reason she left you and you need to find that reason and work on it, tell her your going to work on it and if she really loves you she will be there when you have resolved this issue, if not then it really never was ment to be.
2006-06-15 00:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray
2006-06-14 22:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find out let me know! I would love to be able to fall back in love with my husband for our kids sake!
2006-06-14 22:18:46 · answer #11 · answered by mom_of_4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋