I'm afraid that i might not be able to have kids! I was molested as a child and i'm scared that it might have caused me to be infertile. I have been to the gynecologist and she says that i am very healthy. Does it just take longer for some women to get pregnant? I know that its not my boyfriend with the problem because he has two children from a pervious relationship. Whats going on with me?
2006-06-14 14:55:25 · 14 answers · asked by ☼♥Manda♥☼ 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I cannot tell you how bad I feel that someone hurt you sooo much when you were little. I wish I could change it for you.
However, Why are you trying to get pregnant and your not married?? I'm not judging you. It's just that, if he has not committed to marry you and stay with you, are you in a position to take care of a child by yourself?? I only ask because I am a Mother of 3 girls. Two of whom got pregnant with their boyfriend.
I also got pg before I got married. We married, but it was a disaster and I ended up with 3 kids to take care of alone. I really struggled because I only had a high school education.
Think really hard about doing this. sweety. This isn't something that goes away if you change your mind. And no matter how good your man is now, things could change. Can't you guys just be happy with the 2 of you right now??
I know, sometimes things work out. Are you 100% sure this is going to work out with the 2 of U? Good luck, and God Bless. By the way, God is waiting to hear from you.
2006-06-14 15:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by deborah m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being molested generally does not cause infertility. Follow your doctors advice and the biggest thing is RELAX. It does take some women longer than others to get pregnant. Just take your time and things will happen. Sometimes going on birth control for about 6 months really speeds the process when you come off them. I usually got pregnant within three months of coming off the pill.
2006-06-14 22:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by momma2more 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! They usually say try for a whole year before contacting a specialist. This is ESPECIALLY true if you had been on BC pills for any length if time. Stress also can inhibit some from becoming pregnant.
I personally know a couple that tried to have a baby for 8 years. They finally adopted.. and guess what? Within 3 months she was pregnant. There had been no stress then, she felt she was unable to even get pregnant. They now have 2 beautiful boys.
RELAX. Good Luck!
2006-06-14 22:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your doctor has cleared you of being infertile then maybe something else actually is going on. The psychology of the body is very sensitive and it is possible that you are dealing with your own feelings towards being infertile because of being molested.
(Example)They say women who aren't actually pregnant can trick themselves into having pregnancy pains and loosing their periods because they are so scared and their minds are so crowded with the idea of being pregnant that the body starts to feel pregnant when there is no baby in there at all.
Maybe you are feeling so strongly about your dilemma that it is not at all that you are infertile but that in your mind you have other things to deal with first. Pray about it. Give your concerns to God, he will embrace the pain and you can have your baby.
2006-06-14 22:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by calweir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with you. God will answer you when he thinks it is time. When your not so stressed about not having a kid and just relax then it will happen. Ten years ago I lost a baby during birth. Now I have a beautiful 3yr old and 6 month old. Between that time I had two miscarriages. Never thought it would happen but now I have the best family ever. It will happen for you just relax and take your time.
2006-06-14 22:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting pregnant isn't always as easy as everyone thinks. Just start tracking when your ovulating.Try to have sex around that time. Being molested shouldn't cause infertility. I'm not judging but shouldn't you try to get married before you have kids.
2006-06-14 22:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by pieceomind4me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps your body is just not ready yet, It takes more then just doing the deed, to become pregnant, if your stressed about it, or just in your life, Sometimes, it can be two people are just not able to conceive together, my cousin tried with her husband for 15 years and never conceived, even with all the test, on both of them, later they divorced, she met another man and within a month she was pregnant !
I personally was with a man for 6 years without using any form of birth control and never got pregnant either, we went our seperate ways, he got his next gf pregnant and I became pregnate the following year with my husband.
It's when you least expect it, or think about it, or stress over it,.
2006-06-14 22:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by emigirlz_2boyznagrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got an all-clear from your ob/gyn, you are probably fine. Just need patience and the normal tips...using your cycle to predict your most fertile time, using the missionary postition and keeping your knees to your chest after he cums to help the sperm do there thing, and most of all RELAX and enjoy...don't pressure yourself or him with a goal. Also, if you haven't had it, counseling to help your mind heal from the past mind be a good idea too. Good luck!
2006-06-14 22:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dan P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not physcial hon its mental just relax and if ur trying dont it will happen when it comes i was there once and i have 4 loving kids now so give it time and be patience 1 other thing try before u start monthly when u have a sticky film about i week before u start thats when u ovalate good luck and be safe
2006-06-14 22:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by danielle_aka_shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your man has two previous kids, does not mean that NOW he is ok.
First, BOTH OF YOU get examined by a doctor, then perhaps YOU can benefit from a trip to the psyciatrist....
2006-06-14 22:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by statenislanddreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋