Would you get mad if your husband or boyfriend looks at another woman?

Question

I'm a very beautiful woman and I'm not the least bit insecure. I just know if I were a guy I wouldn't look at anyone else but my woman.
I'm also extremely happily married and my honey is the BEST. Usually he doesn't look at other women but when he does I notice it. Should I speak to him or is this not a big deal?

Isn't this some type of disrespect or something? I mean he's not looking at porn, that he does NOT DO!!!

hey, also, I don't look at other men because I'm so in love and I KNOW I'm blessed. Shouldn't he feel the same way?

Answer 1

It depends, are you comfortable asking questions. Men are very visual. As long as he is not breaking his neck I wouldn't trip. I used to play a game and pick out an attractive woman for my boyfriend(s) to look at. My fiancee told me flat out that he didn't think that it was a good idea. He still looks and it doesn't bother me.
If you are really uncomfortable about talking about it. Start looking at other guys, just casually enough for him to notice. He will notice and perhaps he will bring it up. My fiancee did!!! We still have long discussions about it. Its not a sore spot, just another way to get to know each other.
Also know that all men look, most are very discreet. Where as if women are happy we don't give other men a second thought.

Answer 2

Not at all!Definitely a normal thing for a man to do. Which man would not look let alone notice an attractive woman passing him?I'mpossible NOT TO NOTICE!Its like holding up a poster with "do not look at the following print", which reads "DO NOT READ THIS" in bold letters.Its impossible not to ignore.The same applies to Men.Ask any man if he can resist an innocent glance.You can look at the menu and choose to eat nothing on it.No harm in that!(Lusting and acting on it is a real problem which must be addressed). Otherwise you can ignore it or if it really bothers you, raise your concern. Im sure he will re assure you of his love and commitment to the marriage.

Answer 3

It is disrespectful to you if he does it right in front of you. I'm sure men notice other women, the same way a woman notices an attractive man - but out of respect and love for your partner, you certainly shouldn't be doing it when you are with them. Talk to him about how you feel.

Answer 4

People aren't going to feel exactly the same way. When he does happen to look at another woman what you don't know is what he is thinking. Maybe he is admiring her for her looks but he also could be thinking she's not everything you are to him. I remember one time i told my husband i compare him to other men. When i find myself looking at other men and i realize the men i find attractive are men that look similar to my husband but i also know that looking is nothing more than, for example, admiring a beautiful painting. After i told my husband that he told me he does the same thing. When i do notice him checking out other women i realize they look similar to me. In a way it's kind of a compliment. I guess i believe it is only human nature to look.

Answer 5

It is very normal for a guy to notice other women. As long as he isn't looking at porn (as you said he isn't) and he isn't having an affair and he isn't lusting after other women, then it is fine and normal. Haven't you ever looked at other guys wether with your gal friends or yur husband? I know I have, and it's not because I want to be with someone else (quite the contrary; I am extremely happy with my fiance). I do it because they are good looking to me, there is just something about them that turns my head, and I am NOT dead. The day I stop noticing other guys, is the day I am dead.

Answer 6

My husband checks out other women too, but I mostly point them out to him, because of course there may be some features on other women that he enjoys looking at that I don't have, and I check out other guys too!! It's alright to look as long as he doesn't stare ya know?? It's not a big deal, he's a guy remember!

Answer 7

I know how u feel my husband actually looks at there butt and breasts like a shark ! Its like a automatic pilot I swear .It is so rude .A man has no class at all doing tht with a woman with them.Im attractive too and it doesnt matter they are very disrepectful .I tell my husband if your going to do that do it when Im not with you it makes me look bad Im with you when you do tht.Thts what u need to tell your husband if it was turned around and you were on the make and he is with u !

Answer 8

Sorry, honey, but the time he quits looking, you better call an undertaker. Looking never hurt anybody...so what's the problem? And why wouldn't he look at other women...looking ain' t screwing...give it a rest, or you could well drive him away someday. Trust me on that one, you do NOT own him.

Answer 9

I always tell it to my man this way: "Honey, there's nothing wrong with looking at every item on the menu, a long as you remember you're on a diet. But I draw the line at drooling."

Answer 10

i don't think its a big deal as long as he is respectful to you when he does it for example he doesn't make lude comments , fall out of his chair or stares so hard he risk doing so you know. come on lets be honest don't you notice hot men. Marriage and relationship makes you unavailable not blind.