My husband works every third night and then on one of his nights at home he wants to go spot lighting until 12 midnight. That leaves no quality time for us. It makes me so upset with him and he does not understand why I get so upset. How can I go about telling him how I feel with out being the bad guy.
2006-06-14 14:49:26 · 6 answers · asked by annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to be honest with him and tell him you have your needs and they need fulfilling as well as the quality time you crave and desire. He needs to be more of a husband than a hunter.
2006-06-14 19:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a husband who would rather be fishing, but that's only because he just bought a boat and its the current "new" thing to do. Your husband sounds like he really has no clue how this is affecting you or your relationship. In a man's mind they think everything's all fine and dandy and nothing really hits them until they are served divorce papers. It's sad. Maybe just tell him what you told us, that it hurts your feelings because you don't get to spend any time together as a couple.
2006-06-14 22:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by up_all_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to have a husband like that. mine worked 4-3 and would then come home and hunt til noon then sleep til 3. we are divorced because no matter what he couldnt change the habit. it got old raising kids and doing everything alone. so i decided if i was going to be alone i would be alone in a home of my own and look for someone who wasnt like that! good luck!
2006-06-14 21:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by meredith o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off Spotlighting is Illegal. so if he should ever get caught expect to lose your vechical, and face a hefty fine.
As for the need to hunt. is he hunting to put food on the table for the family? or just to fill a trophy case.
If it;s to feed a family this is filling one of his basic needs to provide for his family. this would be a tough one to over come.
HE may be leaving in order to avoid you because of a negitive attitude on your part. ( sorry sometimes the truth hurts)
men go to great lengths to avoid pain. fact of life and a survival skill in us men.
Read the 5 Love Languages, By Chapman AND
His needs, Her neds, By Willard harley Jr.
and learn to communicate with your man instead of argue with him. you might notice him wanting to spend more quality time with you.,
God Blessing be with your family.
2006-06-14 22:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine don't hunt or fish, but will go and spend all night in the shop fixing cars.... Ive gotten used to it, I have even brought breakfast to him in the shop where he fallen asleep in the backseat of the car he is rebuilding....I don't pay not attention anymore, when I get fed up and kinda ignore him, then he comes around and spends time in the house with me...
2006-06-14 22:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually i prefer fishing to hunting. if ur really upset just let me know when he goes hunting and ill come over
2006-06-14 21:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by ninethirteen81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋