2006-06-14 14:38:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My question to you is. What difference does it make?
2006-06-14 17:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_phan_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From PFLAG FAQ:
How should I approach (and support) a youth who I think may be gay?
The perception by a third party of someone else’s sexual orientation or gender identity is not always what it appears to be and to offer support for being “gay” to someone who is not gay or who is still trying to work out whether or not they are gay could be counter-productive. Unless the person has actually declared that they are “gay” we cannot know whether they are or not. I always recommend that people let it be known through their stance and aspect “that being gay is OK”. This can be achieved by a willingness to talk about topics such as gay marriage, gay rights, and a general sense of acceptance of things “gay”. This conveys the message to the person being perceived as gay that if they are gay it would be safe to let it be known without having to fear for the consequences. Obviously this is not an easy task and needs to be done with tact and diplomacy. It is seldom appropriate to ask the person, "Are you gay?", as they may well be frightened by the question. If you follow the tips above, and if the person feels secure and wants you to know, they will tell you in their own good time.
2006-06-14 22:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "discreet" way to pry into such a personal matter. Why do you want to know anyhow? Do you rather fancy this person? Then flirt a little. If they're interested in you, then you'll know. If they're not, then it's none of your business why not.
2006-06-14 22:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, if you go around a really good looking guy, watch and see if he's looking, you won;t even need to ask. If you are curious because you like him, just ask him out and see what he is. If you are close enough friends you should be able to just ask him, and unless he really doesn't want you to know, he'lll tell you. If he really doesn;t want you to know, that's ok, he prolly is just learning to deal with it himself.
2006-06-14 22:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by scorp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok let's say ur out together and a guy walks by you two and you can say look at that guys butt most guys like me would say why it is a guy i am not gay but if your friend say any thing other then that will there u go best of luck
2006-06-14 21:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by white_wizard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a friend, try launching a conversation towards the homosexual community, events, mutual friends, etc. and see how open they are to discussing it. If they are not a friend - make them a friend before you try to find out; it's really not your business otherwise.
2006-06-15 00:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by oldwhatshername 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless you want to date him, why the heck would you care?? Answer that honestly, please...why would you care. And it makes no difference if he is straight or gay, if he wants to date you, he will ask..
2006-06-14 21:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not ask any question, I would just get to know and love the person for who they are. Unless you have the absolute hots for that person and NEED to know to continue a relationship...M.Y.O.B. and love your friend for who he or she really is. bugsie
2006-06-14 21:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by bugsie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!hows life... wot u been up to lately... wanna go watch a movie/go for dinner/wanna hang out..." if he says no then u just know... also his body language... if he uses his hands too much to explain something then he is positively gay...
2006-06-14 21:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by beautysexychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he likes it in the back door. he says yes then gay, no then straight
2006-06-14 22:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be discreet. If the individual is comfortable with their sexual orientation they will not take offense to the direct questioning.
2006-06-14 21:43:30 · answer #11 · answered by mbrenth36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋