The relationship I had with this person ended badly and abusively. I'm married and moved on, but I have dreams about reconciliation with him all the time. He doesn't want to hear from me ever again. How do I make the dreams stop?
2006-06-14 14:36:50 · 13 answers · asked by Flutter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its not unusual for you to dream about something that has happened to you in the past-especialley past relationships. I have had the same experience, as have alot of my friends! You probabley dream about many other things beside this, that you probabley dont even remember, so try not to focus on the significance too much :)
Its also not surprising that after such an abusive and negative ending to the relationship-that subconsiously, you wished it had been more on a mutial (or positive) note; which is why you perhaps dream of a reconciliation with him-as this is obvousley your deep down desire! This i think, personally shows that you have a kind heart, and perhpas you would like to make peace with him, to move on?
If he doenst want to hear from you again, then i wouldnt give him the pleasure of contacting him, epsecialley with his abusive and neglectful attitude. Focus on a new relationship and make sure that the next time you have a relationship (or if you are in a current relationship) that it isnt an abusive one, and that your partner loves and respects you!
xx
2006-06-14 14:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I knew - I want my Jessica back. I don't think you CAN make the dreams stop. The only thing that stopped mine, was finding someone I thought was BETTER. You need some sort of closure... and I'm not sure how you can get it. Hang in there, it'll pass in time. After a few months I occasionally go a day or two without thinking about her.
2006-06-14 21:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dream about my ex too, but he was only emotionally abusive and cold. Of course, I dreamed about him a lot when we together too.
Anyway, I read an article not too long ago that said that if people specifically thought of something before going to sleep that they would dream about that about 1/4 of the time, but if they tried NOT to think about something, the rate jumped up to 1/3 of the time. So if you're trying not to think about him, you might want to stop that because it could be having the opposite of the intended effect.
2006-06-14 22:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think real hard about this person that you say was abusive. Then you say you have moved on. You aren't totally moved on as long
as you allow yourself to think of this past. Why would you want to
go back to that? Even in your mind? When you make up your mind that the past is where it belongs and you are moving ahead
then you won't have any reason to dream of a bad past. Make the
best of what you have. There are a lot of women who would like to be in your shoes.
2006-06-14 21:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a fact that we cant help what we dream but I surmise because you had a tumulterous relationship something wasn't ended as it should have been...the door wasn't closed.
If he doesn't even want to hear from you (know the feeling) just forget about him and concentrate on what you have now...and don't forget to count your blessings. Some of us are widowed and lonely.
2006-06-14 21:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy Lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too. It's been 20 years and I still have this recurring nightmare that he comes into my life and won't leave. It's not as strong but it still crops up. I wish I knew how to help. I'll keep an eye on your question.
2006-06-14 21:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by MillwoodsGal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS DREAM IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK.... IT IS A DREAM OF FORGIVENESS SO YOU CAN MOVE ON FROM THE EXPERIENCE LEARN FROM IT GROW FROM IT..... YOU MAY NEED COUNSELING FOR IT BECAUSE I HAVE A FEELING WHAT HAPPENED IS STILL EFFECTING YOU NOW IN YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP.....SO IT WOULD BENEFIT YOU TO DO THAT..... GOOD LUCK
2006-06-14 21:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by rawdawgsgo_hard2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dreams are product of your subconciuosness...maybe try to do somthing good with your family before you sleep of better stop thinking about that guy...you gotta move on cause that will never do any good to you!!!!
2006-06-14 21:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by angelsiege11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on....get a hobby...get a job....dont use alcohol,it only makes the situation harder and can lead to depression.You'll be ok :)
2006-06-14 21:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably will not stop until you realize why you are dreaming about him.
2006-06-14 21:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by lover_jessie05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋