i am eight months pregnant with my second child. my husband has not contacted me in over two months, nor has he filed for seperation or divorce. i've had no financial support and have had to move in with a friend after he kicked me out of our house and allowed it to be rented to strangers. i don't even know where he is living right now. he is maintaining all of his air force pay for food and houseing allowance. don't i deserve some of that by law?
2006-06-14 14:34:40 · 10 answers · asked by brandylyn_kay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that the Air Force will have this same service.. but I went to Navy Relief because my husband was also jerking me around, they got hold of him and yanked him up short.
Get all of your facts in order, type it out. When you were kicked out (everything that led up to it) Facts and dates only. Bring your bank statements and show proof. Get a statement from anyone who can back you up (about being tossed out.. etc). The military does not take this lying down at all.
Good Luck
2006-06-14 15:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a military spouse too. You need to call his command and inform them of what he is doing. You will more then likely have to file for a divorce and he will be required to pay you child support. It will be coming out of his pay before he even get's it. You also have all medical benefits for the child as well as you while you are pregnant with his child. You need to contact his Command! If you don't know how then try to call base legal at any Air Force Base. They should be able to help you locate him and his Command!
2006-06-14 14:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by ch46marinewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact whatever base he is at and get the number for his First Sergent and tell him what's going on.. If he is cheating on you he can be punished under the UCMJ, and he will be required to pay child support, and any back pay for that.. He may also have to pay for your living expenses although I am not completely sure.. But get in touch with his 1SGT ASAP.. Are you going to your OB appts and is Tricare still paying for them?? Believe me his 1SGT will be heated when you talk to him, and he could get into some major trouble.. Where was he before he left you, he's probably still there, use your dependent ID to get on base and if you don't have it go to the Visitors Center and tell them your situation the cops there should be able to tell you exactly who you can contact to find him..
The AF doesn't play games when it comes to things like this..
2006-06-14 14:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok girl, I just learned this the hard way by paying 1500 to an attorney! You are allowed part of BAH and Child support. I am married to an Army guy who decided he was in love with someone else and moved on with out seding supprt. I went to the JAG office and told them what was going on! With your growing belly, you are most definate to recive full benefits for your child and yourself, I asume you are married and get the above mentioned! Go see them it will help you and if you ever need advice please email me at carolinamomof2girls@yahoo.com. I can tell you that you should get what you deserve.For your baby anyway and you while pregnant. As long as you are married you get the full benefits, even if legally separated! GO FOR IT!
2006-06-14 15:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer and find this out... Why would he abandoned you and his unborn child? Have your firend help you as well... I think you can get alimony if you divorce him and once the child is born get him for child support. You however do need to divorce him to get the alimony though or spousal support. You may even want to talk to the air force and ask them about this as well and see what they have to say about it.... Yes you do deserve that but i dont think it will be till after the divorce.... You also want to get on food stamps and WIC for your unborn child.... Get on medicaid too.... Talk to social services as well and they may even help you be able to track him down... Do you know is SS# they can track him this way! Hope this is some help to you!
2006-06-14 14:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a good lawyer and let him file the proper paper work. the goverment will burn his a s s for that. Get an I D O and they take it right out of his check.
( Income Deduction Order) Contact Child support enforcment they will have fun with him also. Man is he in for it!! Been there done that!!
2006-06-14 14:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact his command. Contact his base, his commanding officer, whatever it takes. The military has a human resource department in every branch and every branch has a different name for its own. Take it up with the folks that have authority over him. If you don't know who to contact in his chain of command, then go to the base administration and start from there. I am very sorry to hear about your situation and wish the best for you and your baby. God bless you both.
2006-06-14 14:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by juggernaut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you call his command, they will not only make sure that you get the money you need, but they will repemand him for his irresponsilbe actions. If you aren't 100% sure which command he belongs to, call the base information and start asking around. The Air Force will make sure that you are properly taked care of. I'll pray for you and your babies. Good luck and God bless!
2006-06-14 14:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by proud_usmc_wife04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact someone in his chain of command. he is getting paid for having a spouse and is suppose to be taking care of you. def get whats yours and that babies while you can he has an obligation and the military will make him fulfill it one way or another.
2006-06-14 14:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by meredith o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might could tell his commanders about it. they seem to intervene when stuff like that happens.
2006-06-14 14:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋