how to deal with a wife that spoils her children especaily her son?

Question

I am the new step parent of 2 years.

Answer 1

Man, it's hard to say without knowing you and your situation, but I would think that is something you should have recognized before you got married and discussed it with her. However, she needs to accept that SHE chose YOU to be the FATHER of her children, making them your children as well. You need to discuss it with her. Don't fight, don't argue, discuss. If you can't then I hate to tell you this, Brother, but you married the wrong woman. Let her know specifically what you think she should and should not be doing and how it will directly and eventually affect YOUR childrens' behavior. Remember, they are YOURS now, too. If you are Christians, pray together about it. If not, then hopefully you are both woven from the same moral fabric and will agree that lack of discipline breeds disrespect and many other vices much much worse. But it begins with disrespect. She needs to understand that a lack of discipline is not a display of love, but rather a withdrawal of it and that not only will directly affect the children but everyone with whom they come in contact for the rest of their lives. To discipline a child is to love a child and to not discipline a child is to neglect a child. By spoiling a child a parent is not only doing the child a gross disservice, but society, as well. Good luck, Sir. I wish you and your family all the best.

Answer 2

I had to deal with my husband and his spoiled kids and I tell you it was frustrating. You would be damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you do tell your spouse how you feel you end up putting a strain on the marriage, especially if the spouse is in denial. If you don't say anything then the children rule and you feel resentful which also put's a strain on the marriage. In this situation I would use the Three C's: Counseling, Communication, Caring. If you have bought the subject up to your spouse with no results seek professional help. Sometimes a neutral party can make fixing matters like these smoother than if you try to go it alone. Never fail to make your feelings clear and easy for your spouse to comprehend. And whatever you say or do, make sure that it is done with extreme care.

Answer 3

She has her relationship with her son. You have your relationship with your new son. Let everyone have their relationship. Tell the son in a nice way as he gets older, "Enjoy it. You'll never be spoiled like this again!"

Answer 4

THER IS NO ANSER TO THAT, WHEN U START MAKING UR STEP KIDS MIND, LOOK OUT, NO ONE LIKES OTHER PEOPLE TELLING THERE KIDS WHAT TO DO

Answer 5

as a step parent you don't have any say at all.

Answer 6

try to have a genuine talk with her and tell her your concerns. but be prepared cause she might not take it well.