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It makes no sense to have children; if when your children grow up, they feel you are meddling with them in their lives when they marry and have children. How are they going to react when their children have children and they are told that they have no rights? And that they are meddling, but hand over the money and baby-sit or you are a bad grandparent! USA children have become disrespectful to parents when they feel they have grown up and marry. Who got you to where you are? And why should we, as denied grandparents, leave an inheritance to you when in fact you deny us our heritage and our grandchildren their heritage? Who do you think you are to tell your mature parents to get lost? Or to tell your spouses parents to take a hike?

2006-06-14 13:38:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

16 answers

u do got a point but im glad that my mom had me.

2006-06-14 13:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

I didn't have my kids thinking that they would give me everything I need when I'm old, including emotionally. I think you should try to figure out why they feel you're meddling. Maybe you are? Calm down and try to figure out what has brought you all to this point. Your grown children need to parent their children, that's not your job. If this is what's causing the resentment you may need to take a step back. Just because we're older then our kids doesn't mean the respect should all go to us as elders. Mutual respect works wonders!

2006-06-14 13:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by antiquator 1 · 0 0

It's hard to see our kids grow up and not be the center of their world anymore. You did a great job with your children I am sure and you should be proud. Remember when children marry they have to respecct their spouses wishes too. You are right you should never be denied the right to see your grandchildren.
You can choose who to give your inheritance too and don't have to feel guilty but, don't be bitter. When you get the grandchildren.....rejoice and make sure and make it a special time! They won't forget it and neither will you.

2006-06-14 15:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0 0

I am massively sorry that this horrible disappointment has happened to you. It sounds like a huge injustice, but from where I sit here in the comfort of my home, all I can see is your side of the story.

You might feel better if you imagine how your children would answer me if I asked them to tell me their side of this story. Try to honestly evaluate what they would reply to that question. It may be unpleasant at first to see yourself as they see you, but it will also be enlightening. You may thus see the way to be the "bigger" people, the way to heal the breach, to get to the important bottom line of reuniting with your grandchildren.

You are likely going to have to swallow your pride to get what you want and need for you and your grandchildren, because your children hold all the cards and obviously something is really chapping their hide with regard to you.

Good luck with this. Life is too short to let bad feelings fester. Do whatever is necessary to bring the closure you need to this argument.

2006-06-14 13:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by desperatehw 7 · 0 0

awwww.
Is someone bitter?
Just go with the flow.
Think outside the box.......
Don't be so bitter.
Be HAPPY!!

First of all
-We reproduce to continue the human race.

Second of all
Don't think about other people's faults.
-Just make sure that you have done what you think is right and
make sure that you don't have any regrets when you die.

Also
-If your kids are behaving like brats, doesn't that reflect on your
parenting skills?
Or maybe you're just a mean person.

Hm

This is just my opinion.
And because Im bored.
So, im taking my amuement from your misery.
Good Day and Cherrio.

2006-06-14 13:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

At the end of the day it is how we bring the children up.The children actually follow our footstep and it is up to us to guide them to respect, love and care for the older generation.How can you say such horible things about them unless you are going through some bad times with your kids.....a result of your own bad upbringing and you have no one to blame but yourself.

I look forward for family gathering and i love my parents,siblings,grandparents,in-laws and relatives.

Speak to your children if you feel that they have become disrespectfull and tell them that if they choose not to honour their parent ,then their own kids would do the same.

Good luck and God bless.

2006-06-14 13:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Firefly 4 · 0 0

Well now!! I truly believe that my parents are welcome to be involved in my children's lives. I had a great relationship with my grandparents, traveled all over with them, experienced many things thanks to them. I thought I was very fortunate for the grandparents I had. Now that I have kids, I want them to experience the same thing!!! They travel, swim, and do a lot with my parents! I welcome advice from them, but rarely they intrude! I do expect them to respect my rules and wishes for my kids. I have a great relationship with my in-laws and want them involved to. I'm not saying everything is picture perfect all the time, but I grin and bear it or I state my case. But I do believe grandparents are a vital part of growing up and a child's life is richer for knowing them!!!

2006-06-14 14:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by browneyed girl 2 · 0 0

You should always respect your elders. You can be tactful when you feel they are overstepping their boundries with your children. I feel parents these days are very lazy and don't teach their children to respect their elders or theirselves as we were all taught. Parents need to get off their duffs and teach their children HOW to respect others and theirselves.

2006-06-14 13:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by crosstitchgirl 1 · 0 0

its true that people dont always respect their elders, but thats not everyone. calm down and maybe talk the problem out instead of being so bitter and hateful. afterall, without kids, our species would cease to exist and im glad im alive today

2006-06-14 13:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by runnergal08 3 · 0 0

Good question---we need to be more respectful of those wiser than ourselves. Quarrels almost always stem from pride.

2006-06-14 13:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by larsosius 1 · 0 0

Hmmm. Something tells me you made this situation of your own doing.

2006-06-14 13:42:45 · answer #11 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0 0

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