ok i love my husband very much and i know he loves me to but lately hes been looking at alot of online porn (wich isnt really a big deal just a little excessive) but now ive seen that hes been on alot of local singles lines. he claims they were by accident he thought it was porn but i saw that he put in our zip code. are there any ways to confirm him cheating? how can i catch him in the act?
2006-06-14 13:31:26 · 13 answers · asked by Pamela 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
techanicaly he is my boyfrien but we share 2 children and have been together for 6 years we filed all our taxes together that makes us common law married. now can my question be taken a little more seriously please? it was a typo. thanx
2006-06-14 13:55:41 · update #1
and we do have sex at least 3-4 times a week
2006-06-14 13:56:51 · update #2
i am always there for him i love him with everything i have to love. we have our fights but i think he is just bored with me physicaly.i try to show him every way i know how but pushes me away,im scared and i dont know what to do
2006-06-14 14:01:12 · update #3
I just went through this with my husband. Girlfriend brace yourself because if you stay in this relationship you are in for a bumpy ride. I don't know if you know it or not but your husband is well on his way to becoming a sex addict. Today it may be girls on the Internet, tomorrow it may be the girl next door. My advice if you are going to stick around is to get help for him immediately. Try marriage counseling. He may not even know he has a problem and it may be too late like it was for my marriage before he realizes he has a problem. The fact that he is scouting around on singles sites is a clear sign that he is looking to make his fantasies reality. No amount of you sexing him or giving in to his every whim is going to stop him. If you were his fantasy he would be satisfied and not looking elsewhere for thrills. Your guy has an itch and he is looking for someone other than you to scratch it. Funny how soon men forget the woman he loves when you've been together for a while. Someone is taking you for granted and needs to be reminded what's at stake for the temporary satisfaction he appears to be seeking.
2006-06-14 13:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Oracle 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He is not cheating yet, have you had sex with him in the last couple of years,months,weeks,days, hours, i mean not to be so noisy but a man tend to cheat because he feels his wife just lost the attention the man needs to feel when he is alone. HAve you told him you love him in the past hours? Have you been there for him in the best and worst and still are? If you are then just come out and be real with him and tell him what's up? Are you cheating on me or not. Be upfront about it and shoe him you are not playin games. Well the best of luck.
2006-06-14 13:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is putting up ads at singles sites, then YES, he is cheating. He may not be having a physical affair yet, but he has emotionally betrayed you. That is just as bad as having a sexual relationship. Why do you need to catch him? You already have your answer.. Now, either leave him, or remember, what's good for the goose is good for the gander. He certainly wouldn't like it if you were perusing those sites...
2006-06-14 13:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is something wrong in your relationship. Are you having enough sex, that might be why he's doing it. Are you having problems, taking each other for granted, not communicating, too tired for sex, neglecting your relationship. Something is wrong. Just ask him what is wrong and why he feels the need to look at it. Ask him what he's been looking at and why. Just talk to each other. You may need marriage counselling if he's cheating or thinking of doing so.
2006-06-14 13:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he put your zip code into a singles line, chances are good he's looking elsewhere. I had to chuckle when I read that he said it was by accident because he thought it was porn...as if that's any better.....
2006-06-14 14:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make up a name and post something on some of the sites that he has been on... offer to meet him using this name... if he takes the bait... meet him with his bags in the trunk.... i would wait a couple of weeks though so he doesn't suspect anything.. also, there are computer programs you can load on your computer that he won't know about that will track everything.. can't remember what it is called, i heard about it a couple of years ago on one of the electronics programs that told of new ways to keep an eye on your childrens online activities...good luck... usually if you think someone is cheating... they are...
2006-06-14 13:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by mullikindonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you cheating on your spouse with this boyfriend? If your husband is cheating try to catch him online or check on the computer for history of sites he has visited .... Check his yahoo messanger and read his contacts.... If you see any womens names there IM them and ask them who they are and how they know your husband... you might just be surprised what you find out.
2006-06-14 13:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EEK! Something is definately wrong here... you need to have some serious converstaion with your man. Ask him to be totally honest with you, listen to him... hear what he says. Hopefully you two can find a way to come together as a whole again before he does something stupid.
I wish you the best...
2006-06-14 14:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by Wen~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not you just caught him in the act...May not be cheating but sure trying mighty hard...He is not going to change find someone a little more mature...He may even have bigger problems than you think...
2006-06-14 13:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online stuff is not really cheating. Cheating is when they start trading spit and stuff. Talk to him. And of course offer an alternative.
2006-06-14 13:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋