what should i do if my mother in law gets in my marriage?

Question

she always talks **** behind my back, but in front of other people including my husband she tries to show off by acting like shes a good person , ALSO SHE CLAIMS TO BE CRISTIAN BUT DOESN'T LIVE THE CRISTIAN LIFE.

Answer 1

Talk to your spouse. It is his responsibility to stop mother in-law in her tracks not yours. If you approach her directly then it may put a strain on you and your spouse's relationship. It is the spouse's responsibility to protect you...even from his family. When you're alone with his mom always take the high road and be assertive with your feelings, in a nice way. You don't have to take any ones abuse. especially not from your mother in law. In front of others be more gracious than she. It will really get on her nerves! Remember that in your marriage you come first and she comes second even to the the kids. :)

Answer 2

Life is too short to worry yourself about it. Seriously you are not alone with the mother-in-law thing. There should actually be a daughter-in-law support group!
I know from personal experience of almost 20 years that it is just something you learn to live with. People will see her for who she really is. They probably already do.
I say treat her with respect and kindness and be a good person. Who cares what 'everybody' else thinks? They know YOU! That is all you need is faith in yourself.

Answer 3

I think that you should confront her in front of your husband that a particular person (and yes this is the time to name names) told you what she had said about you, and not only do you not appreciate it, your downright offended and demand an appology. She's too good to applogize? Fine, you and your husband will be leaving now. If your husband does not stand by your side in support of your silence towards her, then he will never be man enough to protect you from a stranger. I did this when my mother in law decided to talk crossly to me. 7 months passed with no word from me or my husband and niether answered her calls or his Dad's calls. Now she is a well behaved mother in law.

Answer 4

I think you need to address this with your husband first, because if you feel like your mother in law is stepping out of her boundaries then it will be better coming from your husband than you. If that doesn't work, then kindly ask to speak with your mother-in law and tell her how you are feeling. Good luck!

Answer 5

You don't need to do anything that's your husband's problem...Tell him your sorry if your not good enough for his mom but your who you are and your his wife...He needs to know how she makes you feel...You know there is a lot of In-laws like that...And has nothing to do with you...He can take care of it in the right matter and everyone can be one big happy family..

Answer 6

The world is full of people who represent themselves as something other than what they really are.

We each must find a way to keep our own peace and not let these troubled people disrupt our lives.

Remember that her words reflect upon her, not upon you.

Your words and actions will tell the world all they need to know about you.

Answer 7

How do you know she is talking behind your back? Who is the gossip bringing you this information? Is this person relaying the information being said behind your back willing to confront your mother-in-law with you? Then you may be able to find common ground and learn what it is she is complaining about and why it matters to her.

Answer 8

I would find someone who knows someone who can make someone disappear....or if your husband doesn't stick up for you I'd have a little chat with him.

Not many people who claim to be christians actually lead a christian life, therein lies the rub.

Answer 9

Ever heard the expression " Colder than a mother in law's love"?
Sorry but until she dies or you get divorced its not going to get any better!

Answer 10

I think that its on your husband to put his mother in her place and let his mother know that YOU and not HER are the number one woman in his life. If he isnt willing to do that, its HIM not your mother in law, that is the REAL problem.