im 8 months pregnant and completely miserable...everyone and everything is annoying me..and my 1 year old is teething and driving me nuts....some calm down suggestions for a stay home mom with no way to take a break...help please.......thank god shes eating right now so i got about 20 minutes to myself...
2006-06-14 13:27:42 · 25 answers · asked by Jesika G 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I feel for you!! I have been there 4 times. When your 1 yr. old takes a nap or goes to bed for the night, lock yourself in the bathroom, light some candles, turn off the lights, and take a bubble bath. Eat some ice cream(while you are taking a bath, if you want to...lol). Ice cream always made me feel better when I was pregnant. If you live close to me, you can send her to me for awhile! I have a 1 yr. old too , and he would love a playmate!! Talking to other people can help, so, if you want to, you can contact me. I check my e-mail several times a day, so I would probably get back to you quickly. Just try to relax (I know, yeah right!!!), and take it easy. Let the house work go for a little bit, and just chill out in front of the TV. The last month always sucks, and you have to do whatever you can to be comfortable. Hope this helps some....good luck, and congrats on your baby!!
2006-06-14 14:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by momx4 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Spend as much time with the 1 year old right now as u can, she's young and prolly has some idea but not a very good one of what has been happening for the past 8 months. nap when she does so you can get the rest you need. after she goes to bed sit down for some "me time" soak your feet those swollen ankles could use a well deserved break from chasing a toddler all day. Your 8 months eat what you want comfort food is awesome right now. Ask Grandma or Daddy to take the year old out so u can have a day for yourself. Trust me a one day break doesn't seem like much, but that one day you'll be soo thankful for. Take a bath and put on some ambient music. have a day where u care about nothing just one day. If it cant be one day, try for a couple of hours.
2006-06-14 13:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by amby pamby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. It can be really overwhelming being pregnant let alone having a little one to deal with. Just know that your kids will never need you as much as they do right now. Sit your 1 year old in front of a bunch of toys she doesn't see often (circulate the toys - put some away and take them out every once in a while so that they are new), turn on a kid friendly show like Sesame Street or Blue Clue's and sit on the couch with a cold drink (water, lemonade, etc.) and a Magazine (my choice People, Star), put your feet up and take a deep breath. Things will get better. I have been there (still there - one just turned 3 and the other just turned 1). I feel your pain. Things will get better.
2006-06-14 13:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by on_angel_wings2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off -- give yourself kudos for asking for help. Right there, that makes you a good momma.
Do you have anyone (ANYONE) that can help you out once in a while? A girlfriend, neighbor, family member, etc...? It is so hard taking care of a little one and being in the dregs of pregnancy. You have my sympathy.
If you are really running solo, you may benefit from joining some of the posting boards at iVillage. They have every topic in the world and I have found the women to be helpful and friendly. Sometimes taking that moment to yourself when the daughter is down for a nap or otherwise occupied can make a huge difference.
Don't forget to sleep! Getting your hours in will improve your overall outlook.
Teething tablets helped my daughter get through the worst of it, but occasionally I needed to resort to infant tylenol / motrin.
Wish I could offer more insight!
2006-06-14 13:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by pmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One is pretty young, but try getting her involved with your pregnancy. Help her pick some soothing music and listen to it together to help calm the baby or make the baby smarter. Just be sure to tell her she has to try to stay quiet so the baby can hear it too! If she likes books, have her pick her favorite and sit and read it together to the baby. I know it isn't ALONE time, but at least it will be quiet for a little while, and you can sit down!
Paint your toe nails together (if she won't chew on them)
Take a quick warm/hot shower or bath while she is asleep. Try adding some Epsom salts to help with your aching body. Try some simple, light stretches. Have her do them with her to"help her get stronger and bigger". If all else fails, take a deep breath, and remember lots of women have been through it, and we are not "too" crazy!
2006-06-14 13:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by blueeyes091473 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 kids and my last 2 are 20 months apart. Almost like twins. They do everything together and so my last pregnancy was miserable. I used to go to bed as soon as I could. You could join a church that might have a program called MOPS (mothers of pre schooler's). But I think that no matter what you do, at 8 months pregnant, you are going to be miserable.
2006-06-14 13:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have some wash cloths or men's handkerchifs, tie a knot in the corner, get the knot wet and stick it in the freezer for a few minutes, then let your 1 year old chew on it. Get daddy to give you a break when he gets home so you can go get a prenatal massage or manacure and pedicure like Gabe suggested.
2006-06-14 13:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breathe, cry, do whatever will make you feel better that won't hurt you, the baby or the one year old. Remember to explain to the one year old that Mommy is feeling sad and angry, not at her, its just how YOU are feeling. Your emotions might scare her.
I know what you are going through. I have three kids, each is under two years apart from the next one. Transition from none to one is hard. Transition from one to two is harder. I hope that you have some support to help you with the little ones when you need it. Look into a doula service for after the delivery.
2006-06-14 13:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry...it is very stressful at this point of time, but just think that in a month, this will all be over, and you'll have the baby and be able to work and stuff without being so emotional.....is the 1 year old biting almost everything? my niece just turned one and she has almost 5 teeth....sometimes, she bites me! hehe...is there anyone you can call to help you? that's a really close age gap between your first and second! it is really tiring taking care of a 1 year old....i understand....i wish i could help you out more if you lived nearby where i did, but i doubt it.....hope everything goes well.....
2006-06-14 17:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax!! What you are going through is completely normal. Take a deep breath, I suggest asking a family member to take care of your child for atleast an hour so you can get some YOU time. If you have a boyfriend, or husband ask for some help, tell him what your going through. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-14 13:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋