If your spouse cheated on you, would you stay or go?

Question

You know, my husbands put me through so much pain that i always say to myself and other people that if he ever cheated on me, i would leave and never look back, because i love him so much that it would hurt me so bad, and that would be the last pain he ever puts me through because i can't handle it no more. But now and days, i love him even more, and i don't know why, so even if he put me through that kind of pain one day, i don't think i can ever leave him, because i can't live without him. I just really pray that he loves me enough to never put me in that situation, i think i would just die of a broken heart.

Answer 1

Well I stayed! I shouldn't have. I dont' know if you really love him you should but you might not be able to live with it.

Answer 2

Gosh, that so sounds like me talking. I did stay. I ma still not sure if I made the right decision or not, it hasn't even been a month since he last talked to the girl and I do mean girl, she was only 20. The hardest thing was him telling me how in-love he was with her and how great the sex was and that it broke his heart not to be with her. But supposedly he is over her now. But if this ever happens again, it will be over for sure. The big reason I didn't end it this time was because I found out 3 days before I had our 3rd child.

Answer 3

My answer to you is, if you got a funny feeling that something isnt right with you and your husband then something very wrong is most likely going on with your husband.Remember to always go with that first instinct that alls not well,never second guess yourself, your just spinning your wheels for failure later on in life!
My answer to your question is yes I would stay because he promise's it will never happen again,and why shouldnt I belive him,he's my whole world and I love him more than life itself! So buckle up baby 25 years and 3 kids later and about six more Iam sorry's and I promise never again,You will come to hate that bastard more & more each day month year that passes by.So dont let life pass you by go get your piece of the pie, & get the Hell out of dodge!

Answer 4

This is a tough situation. It's hard for someone to go through this, and im so sorry darling for your pain. Many woman hearts break from this. If i was in that situation, It would depend.

If the man cheated, but didn't wan't to change, and didn't take in God, then I would let go. A Cheating Husband is the worse.

You know when they say..when someone cheats, always a cheater, it can be true, but you can't change someone, unless God blessed him.

Forgive If one is trully sorry. If one isn't, then why live with someone who will cheat?

My heart aches for you,

Your in my prayers!

Answer 5

I want to suggest to you that he could have done it already and you don’t know about it. I say for you to overcome the fear that you have but making up your mind now what you would do and let him know.

Let go of the fear because there not much you can control what he does. But you can control what you do. For this same reason marriages are built on a foundation of commitment and not on sex or kids.

But say get the fear out of you for the scriptures say that same thing that you fear will come upon you.

So worry not about a condition that has not occurred and it if it does you will not be given notice but will be ready to face the reality, since the fear it is no more.

Answer 6

I stayed for 15 years, once they try it, they never stop. It should be a capital crime, no one has the right to cause that kind of pain.
Just walk away and don't look back. If you don't, you will not only never be able to trust him again, but you will never be happy again iether. I left her 15 years ago this october, and I have been deleriously happy ever since.

Answer 7

I think if you want to stay with him, stay with him because you love him so much and not to expect any love from him. If you think this is going to hurt you emotionally then you should not stay. I think it is better to break your own heart once by leaving him then breaking it everyday seeing him cheating on you.Once a cheater always a cheater. It is better to live your life with clean heart with out him than spoiling your mind with betrayal feelings.

Answer 8

My ex cheated on me when we had a baby and another one on the way. I stayed with him after a brief separation, because I still loved him and wanted my children raised with their family intact. But, when he did it again 2 years later, I knew he didn't respect me or our wedding vows. He killed all the love I had for him when he showed what he really was, a liar and a cheater. No one deserves to be treated that way.

Answer 9

It's great that you love your husband so much, however, if he cheated on you, it doesn't look like he feels the same. Apparently you weren't on his mind when he was cheating. Dump his sorry a**!!!!!! The only reason you probably feel like you love him more and more is because he's beat down your self-worth and you think you don't deserve more.

Answer 10

Leave!! If they are brazen enough to cheat once, believe me, they'll do it again. They may say they are sorry for cheating, but they are really only sorry that they got caught. The cheater will change their ways and cover their tracks better the next time.

Answer 11

I know and feel that love,I know and feel the pain you speak of. I thought I knew exactly how I would deal with the situation if it ever came up, now.....I have no answers. I take it day by day.