2006-06-14 13:04:54 · 19 answers · asked by prettygirl new orleans 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say the marriage is truly over because you asking this question. I'm sorry to hear that kids are involved, but you aren't alone. There are so many marriages falling apart out there, and there are kids involved as well. If you think staying in an unhealthy marriage is going to help your kids, think again. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for, and in the long run you will only hurt them and yourself by not figuring out the right thing to do.
2006-06-14 13:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's over when the person you married no longer means anything to you when you just can't stand being around the person every little thing just bothers you about him. It's over when you start looking at other people and go out with them or When there is no more communication between the two of you. It's over when all there is is just fights and arguments between the two of you most of the time. If you have kids don't let that be a reason why to stay together don't let them grow up seeing the both of you fight it's not good for them and it's not good for you it's best to separate and start a new life. It will take time but you will manage.
2006-06-14 20:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by navagator73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's over when one no longer cares for the other in any aspect of the marriage. do you really care how he feels about anything? does he care when you cry? don't walk away until you have exhausted every effort to make it work. try marriage counseling, it works. then you will know that you have given it your all to make it work. then, after that, if nothing helps, it is probably best on everyone to call it quits. children are not better of in a two parent household that is loveless and there is nothing but fighting. children raised in these environments grow up thinking that this is the way relationship are supposed to be. sometimes children are better off with the parents living apart.
2006-06-14 20:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over when trust is lost. It's over when there is betrayal that is unforgivable. It's over when there is a lack of respect.
Staying married for the sake of the children is not helping the children. The longer you remain in a marriage that is over, the more resentment and hostility that will build between you and your spouse. The children will sense this.
If you or your spouse feel that there is no way to repair whatever damage has been caused, discuss the possibility of separation while you're still on speaking terms.
2006-06-14 20:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Dave B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only know the answer to this ;and yes the kids should be considered they don't understand things like you do. You did not say why you thought your marriage was over so I take it there was not any abuse
2006-06-14 20:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one or both stop communicating. Or if one has cheated. You should not stay just because of the kids. You should however try to end things as peacefully as possible for your kids. Your children will know they are loved whether their parents are together or not. And I am sure your kids will be taken care of whether you are together or not.
2006-06-14 20:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by sassy_chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling. For both of you. You don't want to give up and wonder down the road if you did the right thing. But you also don't want to keep living the way you've been living. Therapist, minister, someone who can be reasonably objective.
2006-06-14 20:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Biff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either person is unhappy and out of love with the other person, the marriage is over
2006-06-14 20:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by lizardgirl12368 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying together for the kids is never a good idea. Kids are very perceptive and they will realize there's a problem.
2006-06-14 20:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by lovebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think that it depends on the age, and whether or not they would be able to cope with it. if not then i think it is reason enough to stay together, but mostly let your heart determine your experience. it knows best. Key thing is to keep communicating with your partner, communication is everything. my parents got divorced, and it has messed with me a lot, but ive had to deal with it, i was 16 when they decided to do it, but if it is hurting your kids to stay together then it may be right to end it. have you tried counseling. best of luck to you. keep loving
2006-06-14 20:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by takensobackoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋