Why are man so FREAKED out when it comes to CHILD SUPPORT?

Question

I ONLY ASK FOR WHATS FEAR FOR MY SON, 2 HAVE, + IF I STAY UP AT NIGHT LOOKING AFTER HIM WHEN HES SICK, AND RUN ARROUND PROVIDING CARE AND CLEANING AFTER HIM ALL DAY EVERY DAY IS IN IT FAIR FOR THE FATHER TO SPENT A LITTLE MONEY ON THE KID...

Answer 1

Imagine 32% of YOUR pay after taxes going to an ex (what I pay). Imagine that she hasn't worked on a full time payroll in 12 yrs. Imagine that your sending home $2000-2400/month and your told it isn't enough even though your not only sending that but also paying for half of summer camp and paying for all the dental work out of pocket..... (we are not talking about alimony... just child support)

I imagine that if you were giving ME 1 out of every 3 dollars you earn after taxes you might have a different view of the money and how it is spent.

If my ex weren't living on the support I pay for my children I might have a different view, but many women subsidize thier standard of living with the "kids" money.

Now ask yourself why men are the way they are about support...

Answer 2

Because the payout is NOT FAIR. it cripples the fathers income, destroys his credit, and with it the ability to buy a car, house, furniture, etc. etc. etc.

It makes the fathers life impossible to recover from because the payout is a percentage of his income, not the same cost that he was paying when he was providing for the child.

The mother gets the best deal, and can even get away with NOT paying child support at all if she is denied custody of the child.

whereas every father becomes the scapegoat in custody battles where the mother is not an addict. He has to pay his life away or risk being a "deadbeat dad"

the system is biased, and unjustly so.

Answer 3

See the key word is Support.

1. See a man feels if he isn't reaping the benefits (i.e sex) of his hard core income, than he wants no part. "I don't know what she is doing with the money, probably spending it on another man." they say, JERKS!!

2. Selfish, that's what they are. They think the kid can live off a new coat, new pair of tennis shoes and a toy. Like the they don't need lights, gas, soap to clean their little a$$.

3. Cowards; probably didn't have a father in his life. Instead of braking the chain he just add another link.

4. Last but not less poor lack of judgement on your part. We as women have to be more responsible for the choices me make as who we allow to father are kids. All men can be fathers but it takes a real man to be a dad. My grandmother use to say "Mommas baby, Daddy's maybe."

Answer 4

If the "non custodial parent" has visitation rights, then yes they should help out financially, but if the custodial parent "prevents non custodial parent" from visitations than no they shouldn't have to pay. I also think that when the custodial parent remarries the payments should stop as someone else has accepted the children and spouse to be theirs. Of course if there is any circumstances that's harmful to children "an abusive parent etc..." they should pay but not have contact.

Answer 5

well hate to disagree with the first guy, but the courts dont always put the kids with the mother, unfortunatley in my case i had an abusive husband, that used everything possible against me, when i did absoulutly nothing wrong, but love a woman, and iam sorry thats just wrong... so i pay child support. and sweetie let me tell you, their father hardly pays for anything for them, i buy their clothes for my house, buy shoes because he wont, and grooming things for them to have for themselves at his house, he has them do all the chores, the whole property, and if they want any clothes or other things they have to buy it out of money they have to work for, they are 12 and 16. i do pay my support. so i understand about being up with them when their sick, and putting bandaids on their hurts, and hugging them when they cry about having to live with their father. hopefully your sons father is there for him in more than one way. God bless.

Answer 6

This is why their so freaked out: Guys are stingy,greedy self centered assholes. I do think women should get child support if their taking care of the child and the father don't bother to help.Tell him you spend your money and time on this child and he should do the same besides you didn't make that baby alone!!

Answer 7

yes paying a fair share is the mature thing to do, but guys get freaked out becuase there are a lot of women that take advantage of the situation and use kids to manipulate the father

Answer 8

Many men see child support as a bill moreso than taking care of their child. Its selfish really if you think about it but men see it as they wont have money to do this or that or pay this or that, rather than looking at their child and wanting a better life for their child than they were able to have.

Answer 9

In my opinon I think that if the father is part of the childs life and involved he shouldnt have to pay child support. but if he chooses to leave the kid hanging and mom does it all then, he should pay child support. but law dont work that way. Men and lots of the(great fathers who are part of their kids life and work there butts off) have to pay child support to and i think its crap, cause alot of women are out there to make kids and collect child support.When the father is actually a good person. But thats life I guess.

Answer 10

I personally have never missed a child support payment ( check my i.d.), and don't intend to as long as it remains fair. Its when it takes to much that alot of men start missing payments. Keep in mind that the law is bias to women, giving them to much sometimes. They believe that the only way to make it truly equal is to, in effect, injure or incapacitate men. If this is true then women stand on their own two feet......., in our shoes, and have gained nothing of their own. True equal parenting is 50/50 custody and no child support!