My boyfriend is going to forget our anniversary next week.... What should I do?

Question

Ok, so my boyfriend and I will have been together for 7 years on the 22nd June, and I just know that he is going to forget. He has already admitted that he is not big on anniversaries, but it really means a lot to me, and he doesnt seem to have got it yet... so, should I verbally remind him (it is already written on the calendar hanging in the kitchen- but he never looks at that) or should I not? Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Wow, you've been with this guy for 7 years and he can't seem to remember your anniversary... Hmmm.... Sounds like someone is being taken for granted and maybe living in a little bit of denial. Usually people who have been together for as long as you two have been together start to think about maybe formalizing their relationship with an engagement or, God forbid, an actual marriage. (Well, really most people only wait maybe 2 or 3 years, tops.) Use this anniversary to think about your relationship with this guy. Is he really committed to you, are you hoping he will change or become the guy who will be committed to you in the same way you feel committed to him? If you are doing all the heavy lifting in this relationship, you should ponder on whether this relationship really is working. If you have to remind him about the important things in your life, then maybe he's just not that into you. You gotta judge us guys by what we do, not by what we say.

Answer 2

When you're both in the kitchen, ask him what day the next Brazil game is in the World Cup - say you know it's on the 22nd June, but not sure which day that is. If he's like a lot of people and forgets what the date is all the time, when he looks at the calendar to check which day it is, he'll see the anniversary written on there.

Answer 3

I know you may feel hurt or disappointed that he doesn't remember, but sometimes that's just how men are. He doesn't do it on purpose! Be a GOOD GRILFRIEND and remind him. "Hey baby, where do you want to go for our anniversary next week?" or "I just can't believe that Thursday (whenever it is) will be seven years we've been together!" When you remind him he'll be able to think about what he really wants to do for you, rather than remembering 2 hours before he gets off work and rushes around to just do whatever he can to get by. You see? I've been with my boyfriend for four years and he still doesn't remember when my birthday is, but it's ok because when I remind him...he remembers! lol.

Answer 4

Ask him if he has any plans for the date. if not, make a suggestion for an anniversary activity.

If you do nothing, you're being passive-agressive, and you obviously will be upset if/when he forgets. So why not be positive and suggest something you'd like to do?

You may be pleasantly surprised to find he's already planned something. But don't be too bummed out if not.

Answer 5

Personally I agree with your Boyfriend

Aniversaries is more for those who have been married. However I can understand how you feel its nice to celebrate a whole year together again,

Thats nice and cute maybe for the first 2 years however as you stated 7 yrs.

I think it should be time to consider an official aniversary next year with it being a year after marriage

After all the adveradge person lives 7 decades,
No dought you havent been dating since you where 10 yrs old so you have already passed 2 decades of your life and being together for 7 is almost the 3rd decade
(half your life nearly based on adveradge human life in decades)

I think you should be more concerned about that that just a day.

My 18th & 21st I went out with my mates but it wasnt no different to what we normally did. No big celebration etc,
But it was good to have friends by my side on the day

Maybe you should focus on being happy to have him by your side on that day and move away from the commercialism

Anniversaries
Birthdays
Fathers & Mothers Day
Christmas
Easter
St Patricks Day
Thanks Giving
Valentines Day

All commercial holidays to get people to spent on one another.
When really you should just be happy that you have that person by your side and there for you.

After all if we lived in a world where days, months and years was not counted then how would we know how old we where?, how would we know its a year together?

All it would be is another day to which you should think, Yeah and that is another day I am happy with my partner

DONT make it a big deal as this can sometimes cause arguments or a row.

Which is not really needed because any other day you would do it so why do it because its been 365 days together well in your case 2555 days.

If you would like something maybe make him aware that you would like to be treated a lil often but to receive you must give

So maybe buy him a gift and see how he reacts see if he thanks you shows you appreciation and returns the favour.

I buy thinks eveyr now and then for my g\f and she does visa versa and along side bedroom department and going out places together it keeps the relationship lively, so neither actually get borrered or get into a routine.

Me and my g\f been together 9 months not a year but still
Valentines day i desided to have a bouket of flowers delivered to her door at uni and i didnt give anything away but i thought about it in advanced (Christmas) I asked for her address so I could "Write" to her, I hate writting letters, I will email but not send a dam letter.

She had a bad day at work came home to find this huge bouque of flowers waiting for her.

Same with her she does it little things for me like she came around (as uni is over) & brought me a new PC game for me without me knowing and it was something I liked.

Big thing is to listen to one another also.

What I would maybe do it pop it in his jacket or wallet a lil note to mark the date. But dont pressurise him as that can lead to arguments

He will do it if he feels its a big thing to you and wants you to be happy

All I say is...
If it happends it happends (Remembers you anniversary)
If it doesnt it doesnt

Just be more thankful he is by your side and loves you
that is something no money can purchase

Plus this is your 7th year, if you feel so strongly about it you would have made him aware of it from your 1st anniversary and im sure he is aware its big for you but maybe he feels the same way I do which its just another day really which happends to be 2555 days since you hitched.

I would consider more tho dropping hits on marriage as 7yrs is a long time and im assuming your living together also

he must like you to stay with you that long










Bit long but if you didnt want to hear it shouldnt ask lol

Answer 6

Have you ever considered talking to your boyfriend. Come on, stop playing games, just be honest and upfront with him and tell him that this anniversary means a lot to you. He might just think you're not arsed like him, so put him straight. Then if he forgets just chop his balls off.

Answer 7

Walk past him one day and say i just can't wait until our anniversary,it'll be so romantic. Then look him in the face and say i can't wait to see you what you got me. And act all excited and stuff and oblivious to the fact that he didn't remember. When he sees how excited you are he'll not want to brake your heart so he'll go out of his way to buy you a gift however small.(it's not the gift but the thought that counts)

Answer 8

I'm not doing anything on the 22nd if he forgets I will book a romantic meal for 2 and WE will celebrate it..Or just tell him..

Answer 9

HEY YOU HAVE WEDDING ANNIVERSARY'S AND DEATH ANNIVERSARY'S WHEN THE HELL DID THIS OTHER ANNIVERSARY COME INTO PLACE. HAS HALLMARK STARTED ISSUING CARDS FOR THESE .
ANOTHER THING IF YOU ARE PHYSIC AND KNOW HE'LL FORGET DO THE RIGHT LOTTERY NUMBERS FOR SATURDAY AND DON'T SHARE YOUR WINNINGS WITH HIM

Answer 10

come on gurl don't let that ruin ur relationship.
he is not perfect, he may not remember but the thing that should matter the most is that he loves u and have been witg you 4 a long time.