what do you think of a 23 year old who lives at home and is messy and pays no rent??

Question

If i say anything to my fiancee he about how he should pay rent etc he says I know where the door is...

Answer 1

How can you be engaged to a boy!
Let him stay with his Mommy!

Answer 2

Here's the correct answer. Run, don't walk, away from this loser. If you marry him, all you are going to be is his new Mommy. And, by the sound of it, you will be doing all the heavy lifting, responsibility-wise, because he has zero responsibility. The "messy" part you could probably break him away from given time, but the main thing to consider here is that he's used to having mom there to clean up after him and evidently doesn't want to change.

What you need to ask yourself is "Am I ready to spend the rest of my life with this guy?" I would think that answer should come fairly easily. If you are still thinking about going through with it, I'd lay out an ultimatum...clean up your act, cut the apron strings from Mommy, or we'll never happen.
Hope this helped.

Answer 3

He is obviously too young to be out on his own. He is also probably too young to be engaged to you. He appears to still feel the need to have Mommy and Daddy take care of him and feels that he is not capable of maintaining a standard of living he has been accustomed to under his parents roof. I would say you can anticipate a really long engagement!

Answer 4

Sweetheart he is not acting like a man he is a still acting like a little boy. Don't waste your time! Once you marry him you will be stuck with the task of attempting to finish raising him. Who knows how long that will take! You could end up waiting forever for him to just grow up!

Answer 5

So leave already! He is a slobby, lazy, user and he will not change. Run away fast

Answer 6

so what are you waiting for. you are not even married yet. what next get married and here him telling you well we r married now is your job to do this and that. i couldn't put up with that.