I have lost several jobs because his work is always more important. I had my incision from my c-section rip open because he couldn't stay home one extra day to help me with the new baby (4days old) and our 2&1/2 yr old son. I had to put college off again this year because he volunteered to go away for a month after he said I could start school. He has cheeted on me in the past. He always makes me feel like I'm not good enough for anyone else, by telling me I'm mean. And now that I started a new job that I really like and don't want to change he has tried to get me to quit but I don't want to and he has even tried to tell me he has to work when I have to and I need to take care of the kids. So far I have made it work for the last two months but I'm sick of it, help please.
2006-06-14 12:37:41 · 13 answers · asked by Justbeingme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes we tried counceling and this is still happening
2006-06-14 13:24:08 · update #1
my dear girl you need to start thinking about yourself for once. he obviously has no respect for you or your decisons about your career life. you need to let go as hard as that may be 10 years is a long time but you only have one life to live make it worth your while not his. you deserve to be happy so get rid of that JERK!!!
2006-06-14 12:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by tracy g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow your a real women to put up with that you need to tell him to hit the road.Tell him you are a real person and your going to live you life now. Tell him the only reason your mean is because of his ****.There is a guy waiting to take you in his arms and show you. You do have a life and show you the love you need and to make you feel better and help you through school. So tell him good bye enough is a enough!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-14 12:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by player 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you might be going through some emotional and verbal abuse (ie. telling you, you can't get anyone else), if you have tried getting help and counseling, baby girl you need to do what is best for you and your kids. Is this who you want them to see as a remodel in who to be or to look for in a mate. And do you want to spend the rest of your life like this. Now i believe that divorce should be avoided and used as a LAST resort but in your case where there is abuse it is sometimes best to just walk away before anymore damage is done.
2006-06-14 14:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by LoTs2ShArE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still willing to love him (because love is an action not a feeling) you have to communicate what you want in your life. If he is not willing to respond to the counseling tell him you will get counseling on your own. If he refuses to put more into the relationship than he is taking out you will have to stand up for yourself. A true man brings strength and encouragement and security to the relationship not selfish destruction.
2006-06-14 13:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by robert t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to be left on the shelf than in the wrong cupboard. Marriages are about work, if the work is not equal or one gets tired of making it work, then the marriage is over.
You've done what you can, perhaps it is time to move on. Just be sure that you have your sons best interest covered!
2006-06-14 13:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try your hardest to get him to go to counceling. As long as you still fight, there's hope. If you're still emotionally invested in this relationship you need to take some action before giving up so easily.
2006-06-14 12:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by jhnwolfson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No more help than you get i think you would be better off on your own...At least you can get legal aid to help you...Don't sound like your marriage is going to get better so tell him to find somewhere to live...Bet you would be better off and feel better about your self living alone...Kick His Tail To The Curb And Be Happy...
2006-06-14 13:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fast and Pray. Seek his face and all other things will be added unto you. Read some scriptures on marriage.
2006-06-14 12:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say to him over diner which you take him out to and pay for.. you love your job- don't stop talking about it.. and you love your life and you love yourself.. and you love your kids and i guess you could throw in how you love him and if he trys to put you down you ignore his slly comments and say you love the food. Don't let him take all the goodness from your life
2006-06-14 12:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him in line. If you are already considering divorce then tell him he needs to shape up or ship out and stick to your guns. You are married though....till death do you part.....
2006-06-14 12:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by xdynamisx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋