i'm in a difficult marriage(lots of fighting around kids). i don't know what to do.which is better stay or go?

Answer 1

that all depends. if you think that your marriage is worth saving, them by all means stay. however, you are both going to need to seek some help. something along the lines of marriage counseling would work. fighting in front of your kids is never good. do you want them to grow up thinking that this is what a normal relationship is like? i have worked with children for years and sometimes growing up with parents in two separate households is the best thing.

Answer 2

Simple answer. First, Stop fighting and arguing. both act responsible and be polite and courteous all the time. not just when kids are around. Second-if the children may be in harms way you must ask him to leave. privately. call up his side of the family mom, brother and explain the situation. you need to remove him from the home you two aren't getting along and just because you two can;t get along always make an effort to show you are still mom & dad. this will show your kids that you can get angry and frustrated with someone but some cooling off time and some away is always helpful. then during that cool off period, get a sitter and you two go to a mediator /someone with no interest in either of you. and amicably responsibly take care of business. i.e. finances -custody -home-child support - visits and or if you both want it to work --- counseling but he still needs to remove himself.

Answer 3

I use to wish and pray that my parents would get a divorce .. I hated watching them fight & call each other names ..

They stayed together until me & my two brothers were out of the house and then they divorced .. I thought it was the stupidest thing I've ever seen.

It really does mess with kids heads .. I think it's always better to leave then stay in an unhealthy realtionship.

If you're not happy then your kids will see that and who knows how this will affect them down the road.

Answer 4

My parents fought a lot when I was a kid. They finally divorced when I was 10 and my brother was 2. My only wish was that my mother would have left him as soon as things started going bad between them. She would have been happier and we would have as well. If you love him, maybe see a couples counslor or something like that and try to work it out. If you see no future for your marriage, it's best that you end it. The kids will fare better in the end.

Answer 5

The main answer of course is not to fight in front of kids. They do remember and it can be damaging. I would know I came from one. But I do know that when my husband and I are getting ready to "rumble", I take it to the garage or hold in my anger and when my son is asleep I bring it back to my husbands attention and by that time i'm cooled off. but if you have to do it right there and then take it else where even if you go to the car!!

Answer 6

Seperate and work on your marrital problems while apart and seek counseling and help for this and marriage counseling as well. It really is not good for the kids to see this fighting or just do not fight in front of the kids anymore.

Answer 7

I think you should go if there is alot of fighting. Kids should not be around that... because it hurts them and hurts them in the long wrong. And takes lots of time to get them to feel comfortable and safe. I have been there and I finally left. Cause my children are my life and most important to me... men come and go.. kids are blood and life forever and should be the most important in your life. good luck hun

Answer 8

first, see if he agrees that having fights around the children is wrong, and if he agrees then many times adults simply can't help themselves, they feel the need to fight so make arraingments to tussle away from the children, stay and work it out, ask many older married couples and they will tell you that they also went though that, but the tough stay and the weak make divorce lawyers rich.

Answer 9

WELL IT IS TRULY UP TO YOU BUT THE FIGHTING IS AFFECTING YOUR CHILDREN VERY MUCH .THEY ARE LEARNING EVERYTHING YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE ARE SAYING AND DOING THAT INCLUDES THE HARSH WORDS AND ACTIONS YOU ARE BOTH DISPLAYING.THIS COULD MAKE FOR SOME VERY UNHAPPY,MEAN,CHILDREN.AND IF YOU HAVE A BOY HE IS LEARNING TO BE THE SAME KIND OF DADDY HE SEE'S SAME WITH THE GIRL.TRY TO GET COUNCELING IF THIS DOESN'T WORK GET A DIVORCE BEFORE YOU TEACH YOUR CHILDREN THINGS THEY CAN'T FORGET.YOUR CHILDREN WILL BE THE TYPE OF HUSBAND,WIFE,MOTHER,AND OR FATHER THAT THEY SEE YOU TWO BEING

Answer 10

It is not right to fight in front of kids there is other places you two can fight. It is not healthy for any party get out now. If there is now way to save your marriage