How fat is to fat and at what point is it criminal?

Question

I know this guy who is so large that he can barely move. No joke he is over 550 pounds. He refuses to do anything about his lifestyle and his mother waits on him (grugingly) hand and foot. Because she is taking care of her 34 year old son my question is, Would the mother be criminally liable for the murder of son do to obiesity? Right now he has less then 15 month left to live if he stays the way that he is. He wants to bet that by pass surgery but is still unwilling to change his dietary habbits, and he is very inactive. What do you think?

Answer 1

Let me first say I am sorry for being long winded. This is not a simple Question to answer. If a man is 34 years old. His mother is not liable criminally for feeding him bad food even if he can't get to the store himself. He can pick up a phone and call someone if he is not happy there. If he were 10 or 5 years old I would say different. But this is a grown man we are talking about. That being said. I think she is what is called an enabler. She is not willing or not able emotionally to put her foot down and say "I won't help you kill yourself anymore". I think it would help her if she is willing that is to have someone around who will help with his anger when she gives him lean cuisine's instead of mac & cheese or pizza for dinner. I think that It's hard for those who love someone who is morbidly obese to be able to say no to them. People like your friend, who depend on others to get food for them, can be mighty nasty when they get told no. Lets face it. Your 34 and you feel you should be able to eat what you want. But when they are treated like a child and told they can't. It would upset most people. " If you loved me you would feed me! Cant you see I am helpless here? If I could do it I would."etc. I am sure his mom has heard a lot of stuff from him that she might not tell you. Support from friends and family will be what His mom needs to be able to say "I won't kill you with food anymore". As far as your friend not wanting to change his eating habbits, Depression and other emotional things or physical ones like Pre-Diabetes or type 2 Diabetes, many things can make you feel crappy till you eat. Then you feel better. It might be a physical thing for him and not just a matter of attitude. Though eating better types of food will help anything. It's a hard struggle. I know. I have been fat most of my life. I have been considering bypass surgery for awhile now myself. I know one person who died from it a year after she got the surgery. She was never able to get enough nutrition and basically died of starvation and inablility to fight infection as a result of malnutrition. She just got too thin. I also know another who was thin for over 2 years after the surgery but now is gaining it back. It can help a lot. If you get a good doctor and If you have the right attitude about food. But if your friend gets the surgery and is unwilling to change his eating habbits, he will stretch his stomach out again. And thats not healthy either. As for me, I have been losing weight steadily since I was diagnosed with type2 Diabetes. Once I got on the pills my weight has been going down steadily and I may not need the surgery after all. My problem has been that my body simply doesn't use the insulin it makes very well anymore (or ever I suspect). With the pills, my body is doing its supposed to and I dont hurt and I am not tired all the time so I move around a whole lot more. Plus I have lost much of my appetite as well so I am eating better and a lot less. This could be the same with him. Blood sugar swings in either direction. Too much or too little makes you want to eat and eat and eat because you are so tired and you feel bad till you do. It's a viscious cycle. He should be checked, if he is willing. If it is not diabetes then antidepressants might help. Most of all Help and support from family and friends that doesn't dissappear after the first day. Sometimes it means tough love to get people to save themselves. I wish you good luck and salute you for caring so much about your friend.

Answer 2

This is an unfortunate situation that happens more than many people realize. It is so easy to become obese and so difficult to lose the weight after you have gained it. Obesity is a disease and there is no simple and easy cure.

However if he refuses to help himself there isn't much that anyone else can do for him. Not even his mother. I am sure that she emotionally struggles with the fact that her son is killing himself and not wanting to do anything about it. This is usually the depression that comes into play with the obesity. So he is fighting twice the battle and his mother is as well. I don't think that she is criminally liable no. She is only guilty of loving her son and taking care of him when he won't help himself. Unless he has the by pass surgery which at 550 lbs is probably his only hope at 15 months to live and is then willing to change his lifestyle and eating habits and get more active then he will just bide his time until he dies. Sad but true.

Answer 3

He is clinically obese, and his doctor should have demanded he do something about it along time ago...and he does qualify for gastric bi pass. If he does get the operation done he has no choice but to change his lifestyle and his eating habits. However, I think it goes alot deeper than just not wanting to do it, maybe he has given up hope..I mean if someone tells you how you have 15 months to live..whats the point right? His mother should stop waiting on him hand and foot, and when he realizes he can't do it on his own maybe it would be a wake up call for him to get up off of his fat *** and do something to save his life! It's worth a try but don't stop trying to convince him there is hope! Good Luck!

Answer 4

It is his life, or death. If she is so grudging maybe she should quit. If she didn't help him he would be forced to move around a bit, But obesity is only the fault of the obese person. If he wants to change he will, if he doesn't he won't. And nothing anyone sez will change that. She may be his enabler, but he must take responsibility for himself as an adult! As for criminal liability since when is suicide by food murder by another?

Answer 5

i think fat becomes too fat when it inhibits your way of living (i.e. hard to walk, tough to get out of bed..) and no, i don't think she could be criminally charged for his death.

he just has to find something he likes doing. doing anything burns more calories than doing nothing, so i guess he needs a hobby? it's an easy start anyway. or of course, he could always be a sumo wrestler.

Answer 6

it is not a good thing when u get to about 300 and u is 16-19 it is very very bad

Answer 7

i think someone is too fat when they have fat hanging down like by their belly, legs, or arms....like i know people who are big boned and they look big, but they dont have fat sagging everywhere

Answer 8

If you can't see your feet or tie your shoes, it is time for slimfast

Answer 9

I think you should mind your own buisness, go call your sister or something.

Answer 10

500 or more is deadly