I just find it a bit odd that it seems 'normal and acceptable' to read your other halfs private correspondance, there are several people I know who have had arguments and split up over reading those, I would say it's a lack of trust, what do you think?
2006-06-14 11:45:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i would agree. its definatly a lack of trust. and also, its kind of like reading someones diary, it really is only the business of the person to whom its intended.
i guess if you get to the point in a relationship where you wonder about it, something else may not be right.
so dont read mr. pandas emails.
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2006-06-14 14:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
If he doesn't mind then it's ok. Sometimes I have to read Mr. Evils text messages because he is so useless I have to check stuff for him. Also if he does something which doesn't seem right, I'll check his texts to seef he has told the truth. He doesn't care if I check them though. As for emails, that's different, I don't mind if he looks at mine but he changes his password any time he thinks I look at his. It is sort of a matter of trust but then that works either way, I mean you should trust him but then he he trusts you he won't do anything to stop you getting up to mischief. If you look at them while he is reading them then that's ok. If he seems a bit protective of them then he's probably up to something he shouldn't be. It's kind of a catch 22 really. You are in a relationship where you shouldn't have secrets from each other but on the other hand, you should trust each other enough to allow them privacy. It is perfectly normal for girls/women to be that nosy. If a bloke doesn't expect it from you then he is living in some other world.
2006-06-15 16:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Evil J.Twin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say eavesdroppers never hear good about themselves and i think the same applies to reading other peoples private correspondance.
I wouldn't read anything that was personally addressed to my husband and i wouldn't expect him to touch mine. You could find something that seemed upsetting but had a perfectly reasonable explanation then have a row for no reason. For example, me and my male friends sign off texts with kisses, call each other 'luv' etc and i know his female friends do the same- doesn't mean a thing! ( PS i know that because he showed me an email... wasn't snooping honest...!)
2006-06-14 18:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost everyone checks in on their partner now and again, it isnt the lack of trust, because I trust my husband and I still do it now and then... but he knows I do it and he is okay with it. We hide nothing from each other... and besides if my husband was cheating on me he knows exactly how to erase the proof. My husbands computer-smart. or whatever you wanna call it. I couldnt find anything on him if I tried that way. My husband and I dont hide anything from each other. He also has the right to look in at my conversations and my emails. I have nothing to hide... and if you have nothing to hide than why worry about what your wife or husband see's. You shouldnt give them a reason to mistrust you. You should always be open and honest with each other... My husband and I both agree that if we were both so unhappy in our marriage that we wanted to cheat that we wouldnt cheat but simply split up... Cheating is stupid, if you are that unhappy with your relationship than you shouldnt be with them in the first place. You just leave, than you can have sex with other people if you choose to... No one should stay with someone if they are miserable in the relationship. It would hurt if you got a divorce or broke it off ( and yes I have been through a divorce once before) but I think its more emotionally damaging if your partner is cheating on you and you are staying together for whatever reasons... I told my husband that if he ever wanted to cheat on me, than to talk it out with me and tell me he was unhappy and wanted out. Theres no excuse for cheating... and if he is cheating and doing these things to you than you have a right to know... and there is a reason behind your mistrust. and if you dont find anything wrong, bask in the knowledge that he isnt... ask him if you can first and if he says no then he may be hiding something. why wouldnt he want you to see, your his wife and you both should have nothing to hide...
2006-06-14 19:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read Mr.Ries E-mails, but only when he asks me to, but I don't just read any old E-mails and I normally know what his texts say because they're usually to do with when he's seeing some family member of his and he talks to me about it anyway.
If you sneaky look then it's a lack of trust, but if you say you're reading them then that's fine.
I do open his post though, because he gets fed up of opening bills and so lets me do it :)
2006-06-14 19:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mummy of 2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't, even if he asks you. Not even only once, and for good reasons, or because you've been offered, or because he wants to prove you something.
That would be a BIG mistake, because then you'll become the spy, the "bad", the psycho, the very jealous.....and it's not nice.
2006-06-15 15:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Codrock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I don't read my husbands e-mail. If he's got something to hide, eventually I'll find out. I always find out. It's woman's intuition.
2006-06-14 18:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by MysticHerring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But what if you discover some thing that you dont like???? hard one... you are playing with fire... It'll burn you.
2006-06-14 18:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by engineer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they should be asked first before they are read.
2006-06-14 18:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by megnalon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-06-14 19:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by CATWOMAN xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋