Should I rat out my best friend?

Question

My best friend since kindergarten, is into drugs ad a lot of times when i go over to her house, she is getting high. Her mom is always at work and she's given her drug tests but my friend takes a drink that gets it out of your system so it doesn't show up on a drug test. She also sneaks outof her house when her mom is away and her mom calls my house asking if she knows where she is, i just say, no i don't.
Lately i've been thinking whether i should tell her mom everything or call the cops when i know she is getting high but i don't know if i should, would that make me a bad friend?

Answer 1

i think that this is a very serious situation. if she keeps doing drugs, she is just doing more and more damage to her body. she is doing something that could potentially kill her. it sounds as if you are still young. you should try to help and stop her before it is too late. if you are still young yet, she still has time to turn her life around and lead a great life. if you don't help her and she keeps going on like this, her life could be ruined by drugs. you should definitely tell someone. tell her mother or talk to your parents first and get advice. but you should definitely do something. i'm not going to lie, but your friend probably will get mad at you. but honestly, you could be saving her life. if she gets help because you told someone, then you truly are a great friend. just because she may get mad at you doesn't mean you are a bad friend. be a real friend, and do the right thing.

Answer 2

Well personally why don't you put yourself in your friends parents shoe's and have a little think about how they would feel if something happened to her while under the influence of drugs, and also think about how you would feel too.
Trust me it wouldn't be nice at all-believe me i have been there, So i personally would say something.
But i am not you am i, also though put yourself in your friends shoe's, can you not talk to your friend about it? Is there a certain reason for her drug taking? or is it just to get in with the crowd? I would have a chat with her, and if you get no sense then have a word with her parents ,but maybe ask her parents not to let your friend know how they found out.
GOOD LUCK..

And no it wouldn't make you a bad friend,at least you are caring enough to worry about her like this, also have you heard the saying ONE THING LEADS TO ANOTHER? Believe me that is true, i know many of people who started off on the lightest,mildest types of drug that you could ever imagine , but so many years later a few have passed away from various HARD drugs (heroin,E, etc) and many i am shocked that are still alive, if/when you do tell her parents then she will be angry but she will get over it in time to come(if she finds out that it was you that told her parents).

Answer 3

It will not make you a bad friend if you call the cops or tell her mom what your friend is doing. Your friend is doing drugs and she's on a self destructive path that is going to end with her getting hurt - you are being a good friend by caring enough to tell someone whats going on.
Keep in mind that she may not like what you do and she may not talk to you if she knows you told - but you did the right thing.

Answer 4

I am dutch so I'll post a typical dutch answer. Contrary to what some people think marijuana isn't very addictive so as long as she uses only that she isn't a junkie as far as I am concerned.

Moreover I have a distrust against parents who want to substitute parenting with tests. If she still has a normal life, meets people, gets reasonable grades and so on I would let her experiment and enjoy.

If she uses hard drugs (see link) or the drugs have become a controlling factor in her life it is time to talk to someone, maybe a parent, maybe a councilor, or ask your own parents for advise how to break it to her parents.

Answer 5

First, she really isn't a good friend to have. She is into risky behaviors that obviously you aren't. It might be best to just walk away and seek friends that share your interests. She is lucky to have someone that cares about her well being. I bet her mom already knows what the girl is doing. She already gave her a drug test. If you would do anything, I'd suggest you confront your friend and tell her that your relationship is over unless she changes her bad habits. And then walk away.

Answer 6

You really should tell her mom. But 1 talk 2 her let her know how it can harm her body. If she keeps it up then she could probably die eventully or a VERY serious injury thats close 2 death. She'll probably be mad at u at 1 so if u tell her then u need 2 be prepared 4 wat she might do. Like get really mad at u or something. But when u think about it if u don't tell someone and get help its like slowly letting her die. Help her, shes under the infulence,even if she gets angry with u. After a while (it could be a while) she'll understand and be grateful. Good luck!

Answer 7

Talk ot her mother because shes only hurting herself. I know you don't want to rat on your best friend, but what kind of friend is she if shes always on drugs? I knew someone who overdosed on drugs and died because nobody tryed to help her. Don't let that be your friend. Just ask her mother not to tell her it was you who told her, or even if she does, it will be for her own good. Sometimes being a good friend means doing something your friend wont like.

Answer 8

no it wouldnt make u a bad friend because shes not doin anythin good for herself. shes using drug which means shes a drug addict and to make it worse shes lying and she pretends like shes not on any. if u are a good friend you would save her life and tell her mom. her mom seems like the type who cares but shes busy making a living and her loser daughter is getting high. so yea telling on her makes u a good person not a bad one. ur saving her future. she will thank u one day.

Answer 9

Do not get the cops involved.

Talk to your friend first. Tell her it hurts you when she abuses her body like that.

Why the hell is she doing drugs, chances are you are both kids, tell her drugs are stupid, and she needs to get help.

Sadly you are gonna have to talk to your mom, she will hate you for ratting her out, but you care enough for her healthy, and chances are she will forgive you eventually.

goodluck dear.

Answer 10

it would make you a caring friend...listen, go talk to an adult, not directly to her Mom. She'll just call you a liar. But she will listen to another adult and you don't have to tell her it was you who was concerned. A pastor? YOUR mother? An Aunt or cousin? A favorite teacher? Get the girl some help.