I have been married for 7 years. My husband is always grumpy. Doesn't act like he loves/likes me. Shows no affection. Constantly yelling. Then out of the blue he will be nice and loving. Im so confused. I need advice!
2006-06-14 11:35:14 · 18 answers · asked by Shannon M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everyone goes through mood swings. Guys aren't the only ones who are rude and mean - women do it too. The key is communication between eachother so you know how eachother is feeling. If your husband is just mean and grumpy for no good reason he might be dealing with some things inside of him that he isn't willing to share with you. Either way, if it bothers you and you can't talk it out - there is nothing wrong with getting into marriage counseling.
2006-06-14 11:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk, an alcoholic, or a dry drunk.
He needs some work, but might not be up for it.
Anyway, the main person you can control is yourself; and I would quit concentrating on when he can be loving and hold him more accountable for when he's a jerk.
It is a tendency of the ladies to have a sick love for a miserable relationship because it's so exiting to change a man.
It's a slippery slope at best.
2006-06-14 11:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all husbands are like this... Mine is not and when he does get grumpy i do things to cheer him up and ladies are we always in the best of moods especially at that time of the month???? I am sure he loves you he just may be under alot of stress here and may need medication for his moods too. My husband is on medication for stress and his moods are alot more even keeled now! I wish you the best..... Love him through this and get help if need be!
2006-06-14 12:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going through "A MAN PMS", ..........In all reality, my hubby acts like that sometimes. It could mean so many things. He could be under some stress, something is on his mind, work is overwhelming, not getting any you know what or just plain ol' gumpy. I talked my hubby about it and he's working on it. TRy letting him know that it affects you so many ways. Maybe even showing him that it don't faze you. Brush him off and show him that it's a big turn off. He will eventually get the picture. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-06-14 11:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Passion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is like that sometimes, especially when he's stress!! but it doesnt mean that he doesnt love you or having an affair.
You have to remember why you married him, and just for your little treat... go shopping when ever he yelled at you and you show him what did you buy and when he ask you why you bought something then you can answer... "from now on when ever you are yelling at me without no reassons i will go shopping" and lets see whats happen. (its work for me :P)
2006-06-14 11:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has something personal going on. Do you bother to ask whats bothering him? Are you nice/good to him?. Im that way when I get no attention or affection myself. Maybe a good talk is needed.
2006-06-14 11:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by KissMyAss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no respect for you. WHY??? After being married for a while , some husbands do take their wife for granted. You need to put him in his place and stick up for yourself.
2006-06-14 11:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by NightAngel101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAS THIS BEEN GOING ON SINCE YOU GOT MARRIED,IF NOT MAYBE HE JUST NEED'S A LITTLE SPICE IN THIS MARRIAGE. MAYBE SEEK SOME COUNSELING. SOUND'S LIKE HE MAYBE GOING THROUGH SOMETHING HE JUST CAN'T TALK TO YOU ABOUT.TRY TO UNDERSTAND HIM AND SHOW A LITTLE MORE PATIENCE.HE WILL COME AROUND JUST DON'T GIVE UP YET
2006-06-14 13:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by strickland220 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away or get use to it cause that a man thing i sometime believe that they have mood swing like a woman.
2006-06-14 11:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't want to let go of the past and what "could be." Not realizing that they too contribute to the "could be."
2006-06-14 11:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by jthoms9800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋