I'm 29 and I can't dance.?

Question

How can I learn to dance - and I don't mean the tango or salsa - I'm talking about what everybody is doing in the club in NYC - how can I learn that?

I don't understand why I have to jump and flail like a person on crack or on fire. And the music doesn't move me, but I'm being judged by this lack, and it's something that NEEDS to be corrected. Women really do seem to relate dancing with bedroom skills, and telling a woman you won't dance with her just won't do.

Someone HELP.

Answer 1

Get a full-length mirror, put on some music and dance at home. Look at the dancing guys in the club. Take the "cool" moves, take them home and make one cool dance from all the cool moves you have seen. When you are happy with what you see, go ask a hottie to dance. She will be delighted.

Answer 2

DOOD

Ok one thing at a time. The only person judging you is you.

Nothing needs to happen, either you want it or you don't. Sounds like your judging the hell out of the way people dance and that's probably turning the ladies off a hell of a lot more than jumping like a crack head.

Dude, so you 'can't dance'. Why not learn tango and salsa? Lot better chances with the ladies there anyway.

What you're writing between the lines is that you want to get laid and you've got that tied up with dancing. Relax, you want to dance, dance, if you want to freak, freak, ain't nothing stopping you except your attitude.

If the music doesn't move you why are you there?? Your motivation to learn dance is all based on an unspoken desire to manipulate women into bed by showing them cool moves on the dance floor and that's way lame. It's not about dancing, it's not about sex, it's about you not being honest and women pick up on that real quick unless their stupid in which case, they get what they deserve, some uncaring guy that wants to shag em free of charge. As a dancer and as a man i find your question pretty gross and it'd be a lot better to stay home and leave the dancers alone. You want to have fun go for it buddy but I don't recommend manipulation as a great night out.
Peace

Answer 3

Contact dance studios in your area and ask questions. It is possible that one will provide a fitness class or a dance class for adults. Also know that salsa, tango and other forms of ballroom dance can be done without a partner and look awesome on the dance floor.

You might want to consider what you reject. If nothing else, ballroom lessons can help you with rhythm and give you confidence on and off the dance floor. The hotest dancer at a night club would have to be the guy or girl moving his or her hips like a latin dancer.

Answer 4

I admire your willingness to try. I've seen a lot of women dancing with each other because guys won't even try. Even if you don't know you might even get some free lessons from a woman on the dance floor that would like to dance with someone willing. You would develop a new skill, as well as develop a relationship with someone patient and compassionate.

Although you don't want any traditional dance, you might find that the steps of the basics are in the club scene.

Answer 5

That's unfair. Bedroom performance shouldn't be judged with your performance on the floor. If someone tells you you're not good in bed just because you're not good in dancing, tell her to meet you at the back of the club and show her what a fine animal you are. (gulp!)

Now as to the issue of your dancing skills, I suggest you do what some of my friends do: BOUNCE.

Answer 6

Close your eyes and REALLY listen to the music you like most and move your body, legs,feet, arms, head, etc......and after a while (days) look in the mirror. Soften out a move if it looks a little awkward. Again after a while listen to other music and you will hear they all have a similar beat.
Practice, Practice,Practice. Just remember your dance has to be yours and that's the key.

Answer 7

Any age can learn to dance if you put the effort into it. I've taught 2 adult jazz classes over the years, for beginning dancers. I'm no where near you, but I'm sure if your nyc you can find a studio where you can get private lessons.

Best of luck to ya!

Answer 8

No, you just can't give up saying that you are 29 and can't dance, so silly, when even at the age of 80 years, our great sitaradevi is dancing Kathak, can you imagine, so beautifully, after all you should have the inclination to do so, go ahead and enjoy every step of your dance, see how u r dancing to everyone's tunes. are you not ashamed to say that you are only 29 and can't dance, think on these terms. best of luck.

Answer 9

Dance with your sister and your best girl friend a lot - in the kitchen , on the patio, at a wedding. Stop flailing the arms. Enjoy yourself, have fun and smile - that's what it's about.

Answer 10

There's no getting around it. If you want to dance, and you want to do it really well, you HAVE to take dance lessons. You can take night club two step if you don't want to do salsa but realistically, when you learn to dance you can take moves/steps from any dance and incorporate them into your nightclub routine. Trust me, the ladies WILL appreciate it.