and i have just recently been accepted by them, so i want to enjoy that new girl in the group feeling.
and this group is really perfect for me and where i am in my life right now
but my close friend is trying to do the same thing as me.. and honestly i don't want her as involved in the group as i am.
what do i do?!?!
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2 hours ago
im so sorry i hadn't said this before,
but, she has recently told me that she usues people.. everyone she knows.. and she often steals the spoytlight, it is something she can just do and this was kind of my way of having something not related to her, wehre i could .. be special in some way.
2 hours ago
agh and not accepted as they wouldnt take me before, but that i am not just a casual person who hangs with them, im there or invited everytime something happens
2006-06-14 10:48:57 · 10 answers · asked by Alexis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and.. they already like her.. she isnt an obvious user she is just so damned likeable.. and she is pushing me out of a group i truly feel i fit into...
2006-06-14 10:53:35 · update #1
wow I'm just surprise , that you think your self so little. why are you in a competing with your friend, why do you feel like you have be , better than her . you not going to like this but i dint think the girl is the problem , i think the problem is you , not feeling confident in your self to know that you have a great personality, an even if the girl is around you still stand out no matter what trick she tries. so you need to work on yourself , an dint worrier about what the other girl is doing, because she doing what she likes , now what are you going to do. be yourself an know who you are, an if you friends take her an disc you it just mean there not your true Friend
2006-06-14 12:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change yourself for anyone, especially when it comes to being accepted into a group. You are you, and even if your friend decides to come in and steal the spotlight, if they accepted you for your true person that would not matter...her attempt would not change their view of you. And if it does, you know now that these ppl aren't you true friends....and probably never will be.
Always be yourself, your true friends would stick by you no matter what just remember that!
2006-06-14 17:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let her know that this is something you would like separate from her and find something else that you might do together if she does not understand and continues to try to be apart of this group then she is just as u said .
2006-06-14 17:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by jaklitykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am kinda like you! my friend is like that and is exactly like a horse-back rider in our class, and we fought and stopped talking to each other, but we eventually got over it and started hanging out with me. in your situation you don't want her with you while you're doing your thing. real friendships last forever, but to get to that kind of friendship, you have to go through some rocky ones too! just calmly explain it to her. if she really liked you, she'd understand.
2006-06-14 17:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WORRY ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND WANT AND LET YOUR FRIEND TAKE CARE OF HERSELF AND DO WHAT SHE WANTS. IF SHE'S A USER IT WONT TAKE LONG FOR OTHERS TO SEE IT.
2006-06-14 17:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her join and once they discover that she's a user they'll dump her on her a$$.
2006-06-14 17:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with gypsyfairy.
2006-06-14 17:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by shehawke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her join and c wat happens. u dont have to talk to her or anything and she might steal somebody else's spotlight if she gets into ur lil group
2006-06-14 17:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
must be a real good friend **** her off
2006-06-14 17:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find your true friends
2006-06-14 17:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋