My cousin just got married in April. Currently she lives with her husband and his family. She says that her husband's parents are very traditional and that she isn't happy with the marriage. She didn't tell me much else.
Basically, what I've suggested is to talk to her husband about this issue. Also, I've suggested marriage counseling or talking to her family and friends. However, she's embarrassed to talk to people about this. What else can I do to help her?
I don't support divorce unless it's absolutely necessary (like with abuse); there is way too much divorce these days.
2006-06-14 10:46:09 · 6 answers · asked by King Yellow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She asked for help and advice, so I'm already in it.
2006-06-14 12:55:38 · update #1
What you've suggested is really all you can do. You gave her good advice about communicating with her husband and going to counseling. Beyond that, it's really none of your business and not your responsibility.
2006-06-14 10:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by thecentrecannothold 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to move out with her husband and they need to get a place of their own away from the parents... He needs to leave his father and mother and cleave unto his life.... Divorce is not an option here... IF she needs to talk my wife and i are here too.
I sure hope you can help her somehow and that this situation gets better for them! Be a friend and be there and suport her through this time. Does her husband have someone he can talk to about this as well? Does this bother her husband? Why dont they have a place of their own yet?
2006-06-14 18:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really all you can do....did she marry this guy without realizing where they were going to live after the ceremony??? why do so many people do that? they focus on the wedding and not on the marriage and the life that comes after it, then a few months later they end up asking questions like this, asking before the wedding would've solved the problem right up front..he says marry me, she says where will we live (pretty important question) he says my parents, she says no way we'll wait until we can afford our own place, problem solved. besides why do they live with his parents anyway? if they don't want to do that they need to get jobs and find an apartment of their own. she basically needs to speak up and if she doesn't want to do that then she better get used to being miserable because she's going to be for the rest of her life.
2006-06-14 18:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. It is between the husband and wife and even though you love her, your interfering will only make things worse.
2006-06-14 17:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise her to talk to her husband about how she feels and discuss moving out.
2006-06-14 21:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by skinny mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she/he wants help then she/he will come to you for help on their marriage! GOOD LUCK
2006-06-14 18:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋