I would like to know everyone's thoughts on polygamy and polyamorous relationships!?

Question

I am interested in knowing how everyone feels about multi-partner relationships. I don't mean "cheathing". I mean consensually.

Answer 1

Consensual arrangements of polygamy , although illegal in most jurisdictions, can work if they are truly equitable and honest.

Polyamoury does exist in fact, although it, too, is frowned upon by our frumpy, power-freak society that is dictated to by broom-up-the-butt uneasy, uptight lawmakers, churches run by old prunes, sour lemons, and of course a few folks that have been burned by the process because they didn't have it set up properly to begin with, which takes complete, and utter HONESTY.


It seems that if common SENSE were applied, polyamoury and polygamy could help solve a number of serious societal problems that currently exist, such as 'single and abandoned moms', blatant, unrelenting prostitution that leads people into pimping and crime, and children with no meaningful adult role-model relationships.
Satellite and compound, complex families and relationships CAN work, but it TAKES work, commitment, and above all, honesty within the group.

It has been said that it takes a 'village' to raise children properly, and if ADULTS could be ADULT and be honest with one another, be FAIR and equitable and stop trying to control everyone ELSE'S morality, yes, it could work.

Now the "uptights" and Religious Perfect will, of course----have a FIT reading this.

Answer 2

Polygamy, if I was going to consider its down falls, single men having less woman to choose from would never enter my mind. It is bad because three people can never have a close loving relationship, the way just two people would. I read a book called Nisa. It's about a society where its not uncommon for these marriages to take place, however they aren't the majority either. Actually, some parties didn't always agree to the relationship. Sometimes husbands would bring in a second wife without consent from his first wife. Even when there was consent that didn't mean that they were happy. The woman always felt jellous of the other woman (there were 2 wives). Imagine having sex with your husband at night, and instead of sleeping with you afterwards, he got up and went a few yards away to have sex with another woman!! Imagine the tension between the two women, as well as the hatred they may start to feel for their husband who isn't showing them the commitment they crave. The truth is that people in relationships like this want to be the center of attention just like everyone does. They want to be the only one for the other person. Their minds aren't going to alternate just because they are in the polygmous relationship. Basically, it is completely selfish on the part of the person who can't just choose one wife/husband. If you really cared about your significant other(s) you would choose not to hurt them, and give them the happiness, love, and bondage that can only come from one man and one woman. The end!!

Answer 3

Just for a moment, let's look at the other side of the coin. Some men say, "Whoopee! I can have ten wives!" But if you look at the ratio of males to females, it is about 50/50. So that means if one guy has ten wives, nine guys have none. And that's not a very sensible arrangment! None of the proponents of polygamy that I have ever talked to has explained what those other nine men are supposed to do...

Answer 4

Well, it's illegal to be polygamist. As far as polyamorous relationships go, to each his own, but I couldn't handle it. I would like to be faithful to one person and know that person is faithful to me.

That HBO show might or might not be useful, but if you are going to watch it, be very careful to not confuse polygamists with Mormons. The Mormon church (the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, or the LDS church) abandoned polygamy like, 150 years ago, and excommunicates anyone that practices polygamy. Even the so called "fundamentalist Mormons" are not "mormons" and broke away from the LDS church generations ago. So, just keep that in mind.

Answer 5

Well, they are illegal. But aside from that - I can see how they could be good and bad. On the bad side you will have jealousy, you will need to hide from the law, and imagine sharing your partner with other people. On the good side you would have a large family and a closeness (but nothing you can't have in a monogamous large family).
Try watching the HBO series "Big Love" - it's about polygamists.

Answer 6

that is soooo wrong....... God made a man and a woman, not 2 men and 2 women...
The only relationships there should be is between one man and one woman.
Polygamy > absolutely not!

Answer 7

If you want to and all parties agree then why not. But remember you will be sharing and feelings can get hurt. Make ground rules from the beginning and follow them. Watch HBO there is a show about it on there.

Answer 8

This is the way I see it. I feel those women are weak and brain washed. Can you tell me where the one women many men polygamy relationship is ?? Men would never stand for this.

Answer 9

I think they are good for the man and degrading to women.