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Due to a nasty divorce, my ex-wife has cut off all attempted communication to my 14 year old daughter living with her. I try calling, writing letters, but denied every time. How can I let my girl know that I still love her and want her in my life regardless of what lies my mean ex may be feeding her. My daughter lives far away and due to monetary constraints, I cannot just drop in. Being the numbnuts that I am, in the divorce papers I left visitation rights up to the mom, Very bad choice now I realize, not knowing then what a ***** I was to deal with. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

2006-06-14 10:06:49 · 15 answers · asked by CarloS 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

15 answers

Find yourself a family law lawyer and figure out your options, you can still fight this, I think, as long as you're not back in child support. Or you could save up your money, go to the town your daughter lives in and try to pull her out of school and see her, maybe exchange a secret e-mail account that you can communicate with her through. If you do that, take a pic of you two so you have it with you always. Just make sure you have proof you are her father, just in case anything arises.

2006-06-14 10:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by collegebutterfly73 3 · 0 1

You may have left the rights to her, but you cannot be legally denied the right to see her, or call her. You could send her a pre-paid cell phone though UPS , don't put a return address on it, just your number, and make the form out so only your daughter can sign for it. This way she can cal you, also. The mom may be in charge, but if the daughter want to contact her father, the mother must allow contact, regardless of her personal feelings. You can also go to court and file a divorce addendum requesting visitation rights through the court system.

Good Luck

2006-06-14 10:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0 0

I guess communication is the answer. Although you said you have tried writing letters etc., but has not worked out yet. Now you should try to seek help from her relatives and her friends. Communicate to them that you are sincere with your daughter and have no ill intentions. Your ex-wife would definitely be more responsive to the views and opinions of her relatives and friends than what you say to her directly. so all you need to do is convince the people whom she listens to.

Going to court of law would only complicate things and would surley not be wise considering financial side.

Best of Luck !

2006-06-14 10:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by smartbrain 1 · 0 0

This is the law in almost every state. What she is doing is called "parental interference" and if you want to pursue it in court,it is definitely grounds for a change in custody of your child!
One thing you absolutely need to do is write letters to your daughter each week and send them by registered mail and request a signed receipt when she receives it! Do this even if you can't take her to court or are unable to take custody of your child.If your x refuses the letters they will be sent back to you or if she signs for them regardless you will have proof that you did try to keep in contact.Be sure to keep receipt all together in a safe place If you try to contact her by phone, try to get a device that connects to your phone to record both sides of the conversation,be sure to inform her the call is being recorded,if she hangs up,that is still proof you tried and she denied you!Otherwise after one year of no contact from you she can take all parental rights away from you!

2006-06-14 10:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 0 0

Get an attorney! NO ONE has the right to make a decision for another person. She's 14!!!! She has a right to see her father if she chooses to. When will divorced couples realize that they divorce one another, not their children from their respective parents. You cannot put a monetary value on a relationship that precious!

2006-06-14 10:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

gosh i don't know whats wrong with these stupid women there really isn't much you can do for now besides the court thing and i bet you know what a pain in the *** that is. but it will be something you will have, later in life when your daughter says dad you weren't there, how did you try to see me. why weren't you there? and the famous line if i had a kid id do whatever i had to do to see them, shes going to want proof. so id say do it weather it works or not. shes going to want to find you and be with you at one point its just in due time kids are smarter then we can imagine and she will despise your ex wife for this....never ever ever discuss you ex with her though only your relationship with her(your daughter)

2006-06-14 10:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by bambi 4 · 0 0

i can relate to you on that frequently. even although im basically 15, i pray to God, and want that he will help me. maximum folk my age are "atheists" because of the fact they do no longer likely have faith that he exists or in the event that they do have faith, then they simply don't have adequate faith that he will pull via. I might desire to confess that i frequently do no longer circulate to God for issues till issues get particularly tough, and that i don't have all and sundry else to coach to or if I even have some thing specific that i choose to thank him for. a important sort of the time, He finally ends up working issues out for me once I pray to him, and then i circulate via this entire area the place i pray to him each evening and thank him for all he has finished, and then after some days of that, i'm back to easily falling asleep and not feeling like praying. i myself could come again into church and Sunday college and all that earlier i finally end up being completely corrupted by utilising the international. in case you sense which you at the instant are not doing all your job as a Christian, then perhaps could circulate to church greater frequently or examine your bible. This year, i might attempt that myself, so perhaps much less undesirable issues will take place to me and my kinfolk. i've got no longer even been baptized yet. LOL

2016-12-08 20:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Every state, province or country has it's own rules regarding divorce and vistation rights, the best thing to do, and smartest is to speak to a lawyer. Their advice is the best advice especially in these circumstances.

2006-06-14 10:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by hippy101ca 2 · 0 0

find out if you are still on the pickup list for her school and start there. the only way she can get you off the list or have you not see her at school is to get a court order if i were you id find another lawyer to reverse the visitation ruling so you can see your daughter...

2006-06-14 10:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0 0

You need to get a lawyer and ask to amend the custody rights so that you have a set schedule for seeing your daughter.

2006-06-14 10:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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