why do married men cheat?? actually married ppl in general!?

Question

u'd be surprised if i told you how many married men approach me. it's crazy!!! why do married men cheat??? if ur gonna be unfaithful why get married in the first place? if u like different women why settle with ONE???

okay...lets take away the married part. why do ppl in relationships cheat!!?!???

Answer 1

Reasons vary. I've known a number of women who have pulled a bait and switch on their husbands: while dating, she's always dressing up, going out with him, being submissive and cooing at everything, then (sometimes even on the wedding day) POW!!! She wouldn't touch him if her life depends on it, and cooking, cleaning, or work outside the home? No! She's a liberated woman! And what, the man is supposed to be celibate now? In these cases, I think both parties are wrong. Of course, the divorce courts always see the man as the criminal, and the woman usually walks away with everything. I'm glad I'm not there.

Then there are women who pull the, "It's not flirting when I wink at him, wear short skirts when he comes over, lean on him, and laugh at his (not funny) jokes... and don't worry about the fact he makes more money than you and he's smarter, and that he's my ex and that he was always better in bed than you. But *gasp* you find other women attractive?! You lieing cheating scum!" If you're going to be accused of it, anyway, and she's going to get defensive every time she fllirts, why not? Obviously, the woman needs psycological help, but she doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

Then there's men who just can't control themselves. They need to be beated by their wives until the wives are satisfied, then left to rot. Unfortunately, divorce is the only thing that's legal.

Answer 2

As someone else stated people cheat for various reasons. Some because it's an ego thing, they feel neglected at home, they don't want to leave because of the kids or trust fund, selfish, unhappy, just because they can. I just found out I was being cheated on. It's the absolute worst feeling. And he works with her. In my situation I understand how it occurred and don't kill me, I played a part in it. He would voice his complaint and I would listen but I didn't hear. I didn't take it seriously. This went on for about a year, so I guess he got fed up and strayed for the past 3 months. Does this justify what he did because I understand, hell Fcuking No. But when you neglect people sometimes that's the price you pay. The question is do I feel I can trust him again, this chick works with him can I handle that? Aside from the fact that he cheated he is a genuinely good guy, I know I sound crazy, but I can't lie. He's a goodhearted person that fcuked up, does that man he'll do it again, no but you never know. I'm in a rock and a hard place right now. But I do agree that if you're in an exclusive relationship and you feel you need to cheat. You need to leave the situation.

Answer 3

Well, to be honest, I'm amazed at how many married women approach me. There was an interesting newspaper article not to long ago that found that roughly equal percentages of men and women cheat during marriage.

In fact, women are far more likely to cover for a cheating friend than men are.

Answer 4

Married people cheat because they get tired of there partner, But i always say if he doing for you anymore why cheat. Split up. Hey some men go crazy when there wife cheats. Who wouldn't there they both are they share there feelings, they are one and one day one of then decide to go and cheat! WHY? well i have read that they cheat because they want to try something new. WHAT WHAT YOU HAVE AT HOME IS NO GOOD!!

Answer 5

Well there is never a good excuse but my husband cheating on because I was pregant and I was not into sex.
He just don't know that I know he cheating on me..
Maybe I am stuip for staying but I love him and the bad thing about was that his mother knew about the other woman and was making me think that things will be better. when I found out I don't see her the same way I just stay away. I trusted her and cry on her shoulder and look what they both did. Iam not the kind of person that can express my feeling only in writing. Bye

Answer 6

It is amazing that married men normally cheat with married women. So it's pretty even. I've even heard of instances where a single girl will want to "try to get" a married man so she can be his, so that's also a form of cheating. I think it's natural to be with a new person every so often.

Answer 7

well, i was married before and I never cheated, but the whore I was with did. Why? I will never know. That is why you cant generalize a reason for why people who are married cheat because for one, not all do. And two, they have their own reason. One could ask, why do people knowingly hook up with a married person and allow them to cheat on thier spouse? They are just as at fault even though they wont say so.

Answer 8

Because they are selfish and want things that they feel is lacking in the marriage. They dont care to keep the home fires burning for selfish reasons and instead of taking care and working on their marriage they look elswhere to be happy and fullfilled. If you cannot stay true to someone then don't marry to begin with. When you marry you better be ready for comittment loyalty and love to the same person for many years to come till death do you part.

Answer 9

Good question! Just like women, men cheat for different reasons. Mainly it's because they are truly unhappy at home and may feel trapped in the relationship.

Answer 10

We men are biologically wired to want to bang everything hot on two legs with a pair of breasts. This is why all men think about cheating (and yes, we ALL think about it), but it doesn't necessarily mean that we will...

First off, judge us on our actions, not our thoughts. Don't give him too much grief for finding other women attractive, as he's biologically wired to find women in general attractive. But it is perfectly fair for you to expect him to be faithful in his actions...

Understand that some men will cheat no matter what, regardless of how good you are to them. These men cheat simply because they can, or because they can't resist if sex is being offered. There's not much you can do with these guys; try not to date them.

As for the rest of us, we men who can be faithful if our girl treats us right, we're more likely to cheat when:
--Our woman nags us constantly (solution: don't be a nag)
--We don't get enough sex (solution: bang us regularly)
--We don't feel appreciated (solution: stroke our ego a little and don't be too critical)
--Our sex-life has become boring (solution: try new things in the bedroom)
--We're not attracted to our mate anymore (solution: keep fit, wear nice clothes, do your makeup & hair, wear lingerie, etc)