i think that i am lesbian how do i know for sure?

Question

im 14 and have had sexual relations with another women over 2 times i really felt comfortable when i was doing this but ive also experianced with a guy and didnt like it that much im confused im not sure if im lesbian can somenone give me some advise please i know that i have to figure out who i am by myself but can someone just give me there opinion please and thank you

Answer 1

hmm well you may just not feel comfortable around men yet you are still young and I know that I didn't really start to feel comfortable around guys till I was sixteen or so.....experimenting with girls is not going to be as akward because you have the same body parts and it's familiar......you need to take time lookat pictures of women and see how it makes you feel do the same with men ......you may be a lesbian and if so rock on who cares but don't put that label on yourself yet....you may also be Bi-sexual just take time and see how your body reacts to photos first then feel it out for awhile don't experiment to much your still young and have plenty of time for that......

good luck

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Answer 2

well first off, you cant judge all guys because one them suks at sex. At the same time if you feel a stronger attraction for girls then there is a possibility, but remember that your yet to young to completely be able to define your sexuallity. I suggest you try not to think about it too much, let it be naturally. It'll come a day when you'll be really sure what your sexuallity is. One thing to keep in mind you shouldnt have to decide what you are based on sexual pleasure, its only part of it, as much as sex is only part of love.

Answer 3

You have to live yourself. Sometimes when you give yourself to people that don't know how to be affectionate then you will think that sex with them is not good. Women are emotional creatures and sometimes you might get caught up in the emotions and think you are lesbian. You need to find a man that can stimulate your mind and you body and see if you are still lesbian.

Answer 4

Apparently you are born gay. So if you are asking this question homosexuals would say you are finally realizing your true self and straight people would say you are just going through a curious phase. The only true way to know is to grow up and get married to a man, if you are happy with him your cool, but if you can't quit thinking about his sister, then theres your answer!

Answer 5

This is a life style choice, it goes against God. You are not a lesbian unless you want to be one. There is not a woman on earth that can do what a man can do for a woman. A man can have oral sex with you same as lesbians do. But they can give you so much more than that too.

Answer 6

It sounds like you may be a lesbian, which is ok. If you look online, there should be a variety of hotlines or services for dealing with it, understanding being a lesbian and understanding more about yourself. Just look for it, shouldn't be hard to find.

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Please keep your closed-minded Christian bullshit out of here, she's asking for help not condemnation.

Answer 7

just remember that you are young and this is not something that you will find out tonight, wht feels right to you being with a man or a woman. This may take time but there is nothing wrong with being gay. there are always others to speak with if that's an option. Drs. There is nothing wrong trying to find out who you are. best of luck

Answer 8

it's not just about "experience". I get that's how you feel when you are fooling around, but how do you feel walking down the street, when you see a striking women? Or when you encounter a woman? If it gives you that "feeling" and you want it to go a step further than you probably like girls....

Answer 9

If when your having sex with a guy you have to picture in your mind a womens body and how sexy it is and like you're the one making love to it. If you have to do that to have an orgasm, then its a possibility. If you lust after women more than men, then it could be so.

Answer 10

Being a gay person is wrong! First off you are only 14. You have no business having sex at all! Second we all make choices in our lives. Do you want to make a wrong choice to be gay, where people will look down at you, or do you want to make the right choice and be with a man. God made men and women in his image so that they can be together. He looks down on people who choose to disobey him and choose to turn gay. That lifestyle choice is dirty are wrong. What would your parents say if they found out that you had sex with a girl! eeewwww! It is not right! Make the right choice and be with men!!!