see i still love my ex hubby and we have been divorced for a yr. now we have been threw some tough times during our divorce and marriage, i do love the man i am with now but i'm unsure if he is the man i want to spend the rest of my life with because i still love my ex but i dont know if i am in love with him so can someone give me some good advice?
2006-06-14 09:38:02 · 16 answers · asked by deedee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give it another shot with your ex husband. If you still love him you will never be able to fully love another.
2006-06-14 09:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made you and your exhusband get a divorce in the first place if you still love him?
You need to think about the pros and cons of that marriage. Your kids have suffered enough during the divorce. If you do go back with him, for your kids' sake, you should really be sure.
You should break it off with the other guy since you already know that you don't want to spend the rest of your life with him. It might do you good not to have any man in your life right now and just focus on the kids and figuring out what to do with your life.
2006-06-14 16:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been divorced and with a new guy ( in love?) in the course of a year. When were you without a man in your life?
Maybe you should get away from men for a while and establish your own identity. Then figure out what and who to do. There is no indication why you are split up in the first place. How could it possibly be good for the kids for you to go back into a relationship you just left? There was a reason for getting out what changed?
It sounds like you split before you exhausted your married options. Are you feeling guilty about that? Children do not need dragged in and out of a parental circus.
2006-06-14 16:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet deedee.. Feelings count, but we can't let our feeling rule our lives or else the world would be a mess. My advice to you is that you should forget about your feelings for a while and think with your mind.
First of all your kids won't be very happy if you aren't. So going back for the kids is a no no.
Second, forget the existance of the other guy in you life to try to think about this.
Third, and most importantly, WHY did you guys seperate to begin with. What was the reason you and your exhusband divorced. Think about that! Even if you can solve your problems and make THAT problem work...do you wanna go back to what you were like together...
You quit it for a reason, and that reason should give you an indication of what your life would probably be like later. The best prediction to the future, is past behaviour.
But if you're willing to make things work....then there's gonna be a lot of hard work that should be manifested in it. You need couples' therapy to start you off at the right path. If he's willing to work hard at it as well as you are, then give it a shot. But it will be a lot of hard work... it's harder to build on ruins than it is on a clear site...
Good luck
2006-06-14 20:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an EX for a reason. If you get back with him, all the reasons will come flooding back and you will be in a real mess! Think of the BAD times you had, not the good ones. Why did you break up? He has not changed, neither have you. We both know it. If the guy you are with now is good to the kids, good to you, what's not to love? Get real here. Re-read your question. You are an adult with children, not a teenager. And this question reeks of high school girl. Sorry to be so rough, but you know I am right. The best of luck to you and your children.
2006-06-14 16:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it took you a yr to figure out that you love your husband still so why did you even get involved with another man now he probably has his future planned out with etc you are going to destroy this others guys trust for woman now he may never trust another thanks to you! Seems like your unsure of all that men you been with! Divorced the one you married and now your with one but you want to get back with your ex husband woman look at the mess your creating for yourself and others! Your question is all wrong " should you take ex husband for the kids?" you didn't even mention any kids you mention that you love him and want to be with him and that you will not love anyone like him!!
do love the man i am with now but I'm unsure if he is the man i want to spend the rest of my life with because i still love my ex but i don't know if i am in love with him
read carefully what you wrote!! you love the man your with but your unsure of him and you still love your ex but don't know if your in love with him!! YOU JUST SAID YOUR IN LOVE WITH YOUR HUSBAND THAN YOU SAID YOU DON'T KNOW IF YOU LOVE HIM OR NOT!
make up your mind sorry i can not help don't have any respect for ppl who are selfish!!
2006-06-14 16:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a child of divorce, I have this to say...
Do not get back with your ex forthe sake of the children. Your children would rather see you happy, then in a relationship that makes you miserable. They will get used to the idea of having separate homes and their mother and father not getting back together. But the problem that split you two up is waiting for you if you get back together. Unless you two are maturely working out your diferences, please don't remain with someone you don't want to for the sake of your children. They will not be happier for it.
2006-06-14 16:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by sdkertez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we fall life can turn on a dime i was married 10 years then divorced i gave the woman the love that i best knew howtalk to your exhusband put please dont throw him in jail unless he hits you.i miss my children havnt seen for a year. i pray for you that God loves you and your husband put everything behind you and Go with God pray about it seek some counciling I did im a lot smarter then 10 years a go.
friends in christ
2006-06-14 16:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by br549special 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think that u need to make up your mind who u really want is it your ex or the man u are with now , and also too just let your heart tell u , and u can also think about this did your ex make u happy ? are do the man u are with now making u happy?
2006-06-14 16:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never wise to jump from one relationship to another. Take some time for yourself and don't rush into something that you have questions and doubts about.
2006-06-14 16:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋