I know you have to have sex to have a baby. Our road to that has been difficult alone, even without the sex delima. Is this normal? I still find my husband attractive. I swear it's me. I don't find myself attractive. Does my opinion of myself influence me that much? I'm 29 and my husband is 25. Help me help my husbad so we can grow together and start a family. Thanks.
2006-06-14 09:23:28 · 13 answers · asked by TJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
How do I get myself in the mood? Once we "get going" I enjoy it. It's just getting in the mood.
2006-06-14 09:28:31 · update #1
Have you thought about working out? Sometimes the endorphins produced might help. Don't worry if you don't find yourself attractive, he must if he married you right? Try going to a day spa and getting a facial. Sometimes the extra effort you might put into yourself will make you feel better. You might want to really work on resolving this issue before a child is in the picture because having a baby around can make having sex difficult. And you wouldn't want to put your insecurities on your children.
2006-06-14 09:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by echelon 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You suggested all of it in the 2d paragraph of your question. You and he do no longer artwork and so that you're jointly 24/7. it truly is between the most unfavorable situations you could placed a courting into, even the most nicely matched of couples will commence to crack lower than one of those pressure. One, or ideally both one in each of you should upward push up, locate a interest and get faraway from domicile for some time in on a daily basis so that you've a probability to bypass over one yet another. also arising a experience of self nicely worth through doing some thing effective could help as a lot as some thing else, the human mind needs useful interest to keep it functioning and pc video games only no longer do the interest. you'd be surprised at only how with out delay your courting (and existence often) improves with a touch of this treatment.
2016-10-30 21:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, I as well thought this way. Since you both have been together for so long you've become comfortable, and you've gotten to the point where you feel unattractive not to him but yourself. Ive been there, what helped me, was improving myself image, and focusing on me spiritually. I read allot and but those words into action. By, no means am I saying our relationship is perfect now, but where back to making some kind of ground and we are also wanting to make a family.
Here are the web sites and books I read;
www.enjoyingmarrieage.com
www.focusonmarrieage.com
Also, there's a great fertility monitor out there, its ovatel, you can find there web site by going to;
www.ovatel.com
I hope this has helped, Stay Strong
2006-06-14 09:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by lvn_jb06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would overcome the sex issue first if it is coming only from you. You need to find it in yourself to find yourself sexy in some way. If he is ok with that then that is one thing. But if it is not ok with him don't have a baby, more than likely you will end up splitting as not having a sex life usually ends up with cheating or leaving if one party is not happy with not having sex. I wouldn't bring a baby into a rocky relationship. Try watching a porn together and getting aroused, that usually helps.
2006-06-14 09:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...if you are "on a difficult road"...don't have kids till thinks smooth out...I don't mean to give you bad news ...but most American marriages end within the first five years...pregnancy and childbirth will cause a strain on your relationship that you have never even come close to knowing...don't bring kids in to it until your relationship is solid.
Second...YES your self image HAS A HUGE IMPACT on your libido, and your self esteem and your sex appeal.
Work on your self acceptance, practice positive affirmations, get into an exercise program...whatever ....but as you boost your self esteem...you'll boost your sex drive too...
There is a direct correlation between self image/self esteem and libido.
2006-06-14 10:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well me and mine have been together for five years.
One good thing is lots and lots of foreplay. You may try doing some of that yourself of course with him as an audience" it will turn him on for sure." Lubes help but are bad for conception. Try exploreing each other minds and bodies!
2006-06-14 09:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are still young. That should be a problem. Wear things like lingerie and nice smelling perfume to make yourself feel sexy. Cuddle and kiss and get close to each other. Spend time alone and tell each other your fantasies. One thing ay lead to another.
2006-06-14 09:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you had better clear up some other issues in your relationship before you try and have a baby.
2006-06-14 10:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brace yourself and get on with it. You may start naturally enjoying it when you know there is a positive reason for it. The human mind is a complicated thing lol
2006-06-14 09:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by gill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how much he loves you if you want to keep him you better take care of him in the bed or I promise you at some point someone else will.
2006-06-14 09:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by tcb396 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋