If a boy at my school ask me out an he is my friend ex, do I go out with him or tell him no?

Answer 1

Consider the way your friend feels anout this.

There are the types of friends who can care less who their Ex dates. And on the other hand, there are the opther type of friends who consider the ex- a hands off asset. Traspasing these social norms can therefore result in something devestating.

What you might also want to consider is the reason why he is suddenly asking you out. Is he doing it to get back at your friend?
Did he part the relationship with your friend in good terms? If not, then maybe there is a hidden reason.

Either way, you obviously treasure your friend, and if the relationship did not work out with her, is this guy even man enough?

Regardelss of what you choose, there are plenty of boys out there. So don't let this one guy, ruin you and your friend. Maybe thats his plan, maybe not, just dont let it get in the way.

Answer 2

NO and this is very important you MUST get both boys together and tell them know that when he lost you he lost the best thing ever by losing you because even though y'all are not together anymore you respect his feelings and have more respect for your own feelings even more so. So many girls would go for it and date the best friend but guys as a rule want what they cant have. So if they never get what they want then you can milk them for all they have. But in this case of to date or not make the ex see that the guy that your with has a real person and will protect them as well from causing them pain. Respect for other peoples feelings is very good way to gain respect from others towards you

Answer 3

I guess it would depend on the closeness of your friendship with your friend.I would discuss this with her and let her know that you are being asked out and that you don't want to hurt her in any way at all,and that if was and issue of hurting your friend then my answer would be no! There are other guys to go out with,it doesn't have to be your friend's ex if it will cause a big upset with everyone involved.However if she is truly over this guy and thinks it is great for you,then i would consider going out,but i would be alittle cautious of maybe the history he had with your friend,like did he treat he well or was he abusive,things like this does make a difference in making up your mind as well,and what really caused them to break up,because you need to protect yourself and make sure there is no repeat with you in this guys mannerisms.Again talk to her and follow your heart and best wishes to you on your choices.Good Luck!

Answer 4

If you are true to your friend, you will tell him no or at least ask your friend if it will bother her if you go out with her ex. That would be the respectful thing to do. You need to take your friends feelings into consideration.

Answer 5

Call me old fashioned but I don't think it's ever right to go out with a friend's ex or vice versa because it would only make the situation uncomfortable for everyone involved.

Answer 6

Quite a few years ago, I broke up with a girlfriend. A short while later, a really close friend of mine came up to me and asked if I would be upset if he asked her out.

I really respected that from him and had no problems with him dating her (even if he wouldn't have asked, I wouldn't have had a problem).

If you and your friend are quite close, ask him/her. It helps build trust in a relationship and it shows you respect their decision. If it's just a casual friendship (more of an acquaintence) then ask this boy out and forget what your friend thinks.

Answer 7

The golden unspoken rule is never date an ex of your family and friends, even if they tell you that it's ok. And you have to realize that there's a reason why they broke up. I'm sure she told you about their relationship and she had complained about him. Why would you want that? And why would you want your friend ex? That's unforgiveable.

Answer 8

Hi im charles give him a chance as long you have communication between you to watch the signs do the homework ask your friend whats shes about then you will know .

friends in christ

charles

Answer 9

Rule number one...never date a friends ex.

Answer 10

tell him no! even if u "ask ur friend" and she says yea. she will still feel sumthin when she sees the 2 of u together. so i mean if u wanna be ignorant to the rules of friendships, go ahead say yea and enjoy ur love life. but if u wanna be a good friend, be all like let me think..FLIRT...but dont go out with him.

i personally dont like that rule but i mean its a test God puts friends through to see if they really do care for each other. but hey, i mean this is jus me talkin.