A friend of mine kept this secret from me and he knew it was going to hurt me. We didn't talk for weeks and a couple of weeks. 2 weeks ago he called and we decided t obury the hatchet but things are still weird. He used to be my best friend but things aren't the same anymore. I got used to not talking to him and now whenever I talk to him I just feel awkward. How can I deal with this?
2006-06-14 09:08:23 · 14 answers · asked by peek a boo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to examine first off why your friend kept a secret from you,was it to protect you from getting hurt and he didn't want to be the one to break the news,or was it something he did personally to you?Either way we are forgiven by the measure that we forgive,you should always try to be forgiving,at the same time this doesn't mean you still have to have a friendship with him like you once had before.I would tell him that i forgive the situation,but I'm at the point that i can't trust in our friendship like i thought we had in the past and now i am at an issue of awkwardness,so i need my space at this time to sort out my thoughts and feelings.There is nothing wrong with doing so either!Like i said this doesn't mean you don't forgive,it's like you said the awkwardness and you just don't need it right now in your life and you don't have to have it ,so severe the cords for awhile.I am sorry that you got hurt in whatever the issue might of been,but it will get better,and you will learn something from everything we go threw in life,there is always a meaning that we might not understand at the time,but we do later on with time.Good Luck to you!
2006-06-14 09:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-09 01:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont force yourself to talk to them, just go with the flow and take it one step at a time. Things may never be the same again, if after awhile you still feel awkward talking to this person, then maybe its time to move on, but at least you tried.
2006-06-14 09:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the secret was something he knew would hurt you"make you sad" Then he was only trying to protect you! If the secret was some he had done or if it was something that he would benefit from ,I'd have some thinking to do.If you value your friendship,talk to him get it all out in the open .Resolve it then forget it.If it gets resolved neither of you have to have bad feelings and it will make your friendship even stronger!
2006-06-14 09:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to get over your feelings of betrayal. It's hard to change your feelings immediately. Also, try to give your friend a break. Everyone makes mistakes. If it's not a pattern, it is probably worth forgiving.
2006-06-14 10:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by thecentrecannothold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to move on, he can still be a friend, but when you don't trust someone, it's hard to be completely open. Stay friends, but tell him it will take some time. Their is a saying "I can forgive, but I can't for get. "
2006-06-14 09:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by 007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't really be your best friend anymore if you don't trust him. There's nothing you can do about it , thats how your heart feels and it will show in your approach with him. Sorry about his luck, his loss.
2006-06-14 11:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable why things are weird. Maybe just spend more time apart or talk to him about it.
2006-06-14 09:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We dont know what IT is that you have to deal with. What was it you have to get over?
2006-06-14 09:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by futurebecwar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive him because he tried not to hurt u.
2006-06-14 09:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋