Partner wants to experiment with different fetishes. Is it normal?

Question

Well the other day he came home with a nanny custume and a marine outfit. I thought it was cool and went along with it, but a few nights later he suggested using a large, two headed dildo, and then he talked about buying cuffs and whips. Then yesturday he began talking about public sex and having sex with my brother (who is also gay). I think he is trying to spice up the relationship, but do you think he is taking it too far?

Answer 1

He's not going far enough in my opinion.

Especially if he's the same boy you asked this question about two weeks ago:-

"How do I tell a boy that I don't love him when I know he loves me with all his might?
I'm afraid to hurt him because I see just how much I mean to him by the way he would sit there with a stupid smile on his face and stare at me like I might disappear, or how he gently runs his fingers on mines when we are watching tv on the couch, or how he would close his eyes and breathed in my colgne when I am close to him. How can I break his heart when he loves me so much?"

Or do you have two fantasy worlds?

Answer 2

Well sleeping with your brother is a bit to far. If he want someone else to join the 2 of you find the right guy be it a friend or a one night stand that the 2 of you agree on and go from there.

Personally there is nothing wrong with him wanting to spice up your love life,I have brang another woman home for my fiancee(male) and I to both enjoy and we use toys also so hey do not knock the toys until you try them but no on letting your brother join

Answer 3

The only thing too far is the part about your brother (though I had two brothers in OKC once and it was HOT, they were both the cutest little bottom guys you ever did see...) anyway - sounds like you have a very fun, very open guy on your hands - one who is willing to try new things - as long as YOU are comfortable I would try anything he wants - you never know what might strike your fancy!

Answer 4

I think you should dress up like butt-pirates and cuff him, bend the two heade monster in half and shove it to him, whip him like a redheaded step child, beat him into submission, give him a golden shower and curse your maker, then do your brother.

Answer 5

Well it depends on what you think is too far. You obviously are uncomfortable with it if you are asking about it. Let him know how you feel about it. Honestly, I'd be offended if my partner wanted to be with my sibling. That's just not right. I would say the sibling is too far, but the rest is up to you though.

Answer 6

I say try everything, except the whole sex with your brother thing. Incest may be a whole game for the family, but only if you live in Arkansas.

Answer 7

i would say no, having sneaked a rendez-vous or two in in outdoor places myself, but adding your brother does seem to me to be crossing a line....talk with him about it.
why does he want to involve your brother? does he have feelings for your brother?
how do you feel about that?
do you want to be sexually involved with your brother? some would consider that incest and taboo.
if you and your brother end-up in a love triangle will that hurt your family as a whole?
is your current lover worth that much to you?
i think you should openly discuss it together, and with a therapist.

Answer 8

Nothing wrong w/ trying new things...but i agree w/ everyone else...inviting your brother into the mix is trouble

Answer 9

Very normal for some

Answer 10

Extremely far.