and i have just recently been accepted by them, so i want to enjoy that new girl in the group feeling.
and this group is really perfect for me and where i am in my life right now
but my close friend is trying to do the same thing as me.. and honestly i don't want her as involved in the group as i am.
what do i do?!?!
2006-06-14 08:51:08 · 13 answers · asked by Alexis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
im so sorry i hadn't said this before,
but, she has recently told me that she usues people.. everyone she knows.. and she often steals the spoytlight, it is something she can just do and this was kind of my way of having something not related to her, wehre i could .. be special in some way.
2006-06-14 09:09:58 · update #1
agh and not accepted as they wouldnt take me before, but that i am not just a casual person who hangs with them, im there or invited everytime something happens
2006-06-14 09:11:31 · update #2
Its always good to make new friends, and hopefully being in the new group will work for you. It seems to me that your close friend wants to join for her own reasons. You said that she is a user, you know this, and staying friends with her doesn't sound like a good thing to do. But is this fact, or are you afraid that she will steal the "limelight" as you put it. And if she does use people why would you want to be friends with someone like that to begin with. I would have ditched her a long time ago.
I think moving on and making new friends is fine, but I would put closure to the old friendship. I would tell your friend that its time for you to move on and do tell her your reasons. You are happy with the choice you have made with this other group. They are where you are right now and where you want to be at this point in your life.
2006-06-28 03:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you'd want your good friend to be there with you and experience these things too.Later in life you'd have many memories to reminisce! I surly hope you're not being yourself,when you're with your new friends.And keep in mind,if you had to wait to join their group"to be accepted" what kind of real friend would do that to a friend? Are they really friends? Sounds like you have to have something of use to your group to be accepted,THAT IS NOT FRIENDSHIP! But in reading your comments about "your good friend" I'm wondering if you are truly deserving of that "good friend" maybe you should hang out with the group that had to accept you before you could be "their friend" Sorry if my answer sounds cold,but after all you asked the question! A true friend never turns away from their true friend!
2006-06-14 09:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you are not in control of who a group of friends likes or dislikes. Why is this person your "close friend" if you don't want her around and she uses people?
If you are not petty, do not gossip, are kind to everyone then your associations with this group will last longer. Get over it they like her too. Enjoy your friendship and quit being jealous. I always encourage my friends to meet and hang with my other friends, way more fun for me. If you can not handle the fact that they may like each other or want everyone to have exclusive relationships with you, you need to grow up. And if you don't like this person why is she your close friend? I think you need to examine yourself so that you can be a better friend to everyone. Keep in mind TO HAVE A FRIEND YOU NEED TO BE A FRIEND! If she is really that horrible the rest of the group will discover it on their own.
2006-06-28 05:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by jodi M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what someone else is doing. If you really want to be accepted by this group just be yourself and don't think about what the other girl is doing. She's there for her own reasons. You're there for yours.
2006-06-27 07:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that being in groups is bad cause your kindof telling everyone that i dont want to be w/ anyone else but the people in the group and thats kind of mean if i were you i would just hang out w/ everyone who cares if their not popular the thing that counts its whats inside of them!
2006-06-28 08:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by nick_name137 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think why you don't want her to be in your new gang.
Are you jealous about sharing the new girl feeling?
If you dont include her, you will lose a close friend. Friends are important, why dont you let her tag along and let everyone make up their own minds
2006-06-14 08:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's frustrating when you have a friend who wants to tag a long and do everything that you do. Could it be that she is afraid of 'losing you' to the group? Maybe she wants to fit in with them too so she won't lose one of her close friends.
~Maxie
2006-06-14 08:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Maxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to be something that you're not. If you care about your friend then you won't be so worried about who you are with.Friends are friends but don't try to tell your friend what to do. Your friend seems to be seeking a way to be closer to you, are you truly her friend? If so you will support her/him instead of seeking a way to be rid of her/him.
2006-06-14 08:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warn your new friends, and don't continue to cultivate a friendship with a self-proclaimed user. There's a reason you don't want her around your new friends - trust your instincts.
2006-06-28 03:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personaly i think "groups" are retarded. i think you should just stick with your real friends and not try to impress other people just to hang out with them or be part of your group because they can very easily kick you out of the "group"
2006-06-14 08:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by scottkc83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋