if so how do you help them n you
2006-06-14 08:45:46 · 15 answers · asked by babyblues 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my son was on crack for 8 years and it will destroy a persons life. but i have stood by him because it is a drug and when you deal with someone on drugs you are not dealing with a person, your dealing with chemicals. stay by and try to help because you may be that one person in his life that will make a difference. try to be his friend regardless cause you might be the only one he has.
2006-06-14 08:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by daggo 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I became BEST FRIENDS with a crack addict and for a while it didn't effect our friendship at all until eventually I started driving her places ALL THE TIME to buy some. I paid her probation fees so she wouldn't go to jail, with the "understanding" that she'd pay me back...she never did. When we spent time together she always seemed distant because she was more focused on getting some crack to smoke later that night. And I eventually let her talk me into trying coke and I got addicted. It's been the worst experience of my life, not just because I got addicted to coke, but because I thought she was my best friend, but in fact, she was just using me for transportation and money to get high. In the end I was out about $300 and out what I thought was a best friend.
Her addiction affected everyone, including her four kids who all knew about her bad habit. It's just sad. The way I feel is I can't tell someone to stop doing what they're doing, because they will never stop until they realize that they HAVE to stop. It'd be like beating a dead horse...pointless. She/He has to come to that decision on their own.
As for you...I hate to say it, but you're probably better off without them. I learned the hard way that addicts 9 times out of 10 are more concerned with themselves and their wants and needs, than yours. That doesn't make a very good friend. And you better keep your wallet CLOSED! I garauntee you if you haven't given them money already, they will ask you in a way that makes it seem alright.
I know you probably won't heed my advice, I just hope you don't learn the hard way like I did. Crack addicts are only "true friends" with other addicts.
2006-06-14 16:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Yes, I have 4 out of 5 siblings who is/was on crack. As a result, one is deceased, one remains on it and two have been successfully crack free for more then 5 years. The sad truth about this drug is it will have you stealing, lying, and/or selling your body just to get the next hit.
Over the course of many years, I have encouraged, loved and prayed for each of my siblings to be free of crack, however, it all boils down to them wanting it. The only thing that you can do for them is be there, but I must admit, times may get real hard, especially when they steal your property and lie to your face. But, it is in these times that you must go beyond the deception and the thievery and love them unconditionally.
Be blessed and be encouraged to do your best.
2006-06-14 16:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by Decent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called tough love. only they can help them selves. was with a guy that did crack. every time i try to dump him he would slice his wrist finally one day i said if ur going to do it do it right and walked away. 20 yrs later im married with kids. live a great life. hes still smoking crack and stealing and being a big ZERO... crack is the devil itselfs. get out and far away
2006-06-14 15:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. People on crack are only interested in one thing, the next High. They are so overwhelmed by the drug and it's effect that they can't see outside their own little world.
Sad.
2006-06-14 15:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's on boy and girl the stuff you snort I had to move and not tell him where I live I lost 3 yrs of my life around him I miss him but I had to get a way from because I was bringing my baby to this earth and I knew I need to be in a better place than hanging with my brother Itss called hard love he lives his life locked up and sometimes I see him and I just keep going god will take care of him but honey I got to kids to raise and I didnt want them to see all that bs so that person has to want to stop the drug abuse well its been almos 3 yrs and I've moved on
2006-06-14 15:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by jcleann13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience working with law enforcement and medical professionals, there is only one way: lock them up and get them rehabilitated.
Meth is an incredibly strong drug, and recovering addicts NEVER fully recover.
There is no more relationship with family or friends.
There is no more trust.
There is NOTHING but the next hit of crack.
If you really, really want to help them, then help them by turning them in...before they kill themselves, you or someone else.
2006-06-14 15:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be close to some friends who were into crack, and guess what? they are all dead now except for one!
it's horribly addictive and they have to want to get help, you can just offer to help them find it.
2006-06-14 15:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by ceffedupwithwhiners 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, my wife went that route. she started with a little coke here and there. then it became coke 4-5 times a week. then it turned into crack and adultry. how do i help? by leaving her.
2006-06-14 15:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mike S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i just show my aunt that i love her no matter what problem she has and i try to help her in anyway i can the best way is to pray for her the only way a person can get help is by first admitting it
2006-06-14 15:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany2bratcher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋