Im just as good as you are right?

Question

Okay why are people so degrading towards me? Im a stripper and people think that makes me this sluty bimbo but im not! Im not a whore i love to dance and such...plus the money is really good. Ill dance for male or female. My question is do you think your better than me? Will you judge me before you know me just becouse of my profesion?

Answer 1

I have heard remarks like that before, and I am always saddened to see any person being labelled negatively without the pther person knowing them. Sure there are strippers who are slutty. Just like there are politicians, and mothers, and bank tellers and teachers, waiters and waitresses...etc etc who are slutty. Your profession does not define that.
Though it may have something to do with the intimacy of taking off your clothes. Some people would figure well you can take off your clothes for anybody, so you can intimate with anybody, so you can sleep with anybody, hence you're a slut. Very ignorant if you ask me, but human minds are funny little things. lol
But I think it is primarily an issue with insecurity. First thik about this...what is the first thing a straight man says if his gf/wife says how attarctive a famous man is? He's gay....The man feels insecure, so he must put this man that his wife admires into an undesirable category.
So when a woman finds out her spouse has been looking at other women strip what do they say....she's a slut. Taking the stripper out of her class and placing her in an undesirable class.
And when a man says it, that is also just his insecurities. Some men would have a hard time dating a woman who takes off her clothes for other people. Plus she'd prolly make a lot more money than him and THAT would be an issue.
Basically it all comes down to insecurities. Don;t listen to those people. Be proud of who you are. Don't be a slut. Make the $$$ so you can better your own life and screw narrow people and their narrow minds.

Also let me add that society has come to think of nudity as a bad thing, when it really is not. You think that seeing naked people will cause a child to be a pervert, but it won't. Because nudity is actually rare is why people are so turned on and attracted to it. If we lived in a very open community to nudity, you will adapt to it and it will actually interest you less.However hiding that from your children will make them go look for it in other places.

BTW steelers answer was 100% dead off. I am personally not going to go to a strip club when i am in a relationship because to me that is like saying these other women are more attractive than my gf, so her issue again seems to be insecurity. Her bf/husband probably did or does frequest these places and she feels insulted he would rather go look at those women than her. But that has nothing to do with you, you don;t go seek the men out and make them watch you, they come to you. She should be more pissed off and disgusted at that man who insults are by doing this. And to say anyone deserves to be raped makes them an ingnorant B*tch in my humble opinion. Noone deserves that. But since women allow their husbands to insult them by going out and looking at other women strip, maybe that means they have a right to beat the crap out of em and degrade em. Respect is respect. You get what you get. Maybe a an then has a right to rape a lesbian? or rape a prudish, rigid woman? or any girl who is a tease. That way of thiking is animalistic and ignorant. Ignore those people, they are not as advanced on the evolutionary scale.

Answer 2

I once had a boss who said perception is everything, I hated to think he was correct, but he was... at least 75%. Perception rules the world and if you live the lifestyle of a dancer people will inevitably consider you a dumb, unsophisticated, whore.

A prime example is this message board, have you seen the writing skills of some of the postings? The individuals with poor writing skills will be judged, perceived to be from a lower income poor socioeconomic class with a poor education. The perception may or may not be true, but how they express themselves is how they will be perceived.

I don't give a rat's *** what people do for a living, but even I judge based on perception sometimes. If I'm in a dark alley in New York City and am approached by a group of dark skinned individuals I would fear for my life; based on the perception that they were black and they were poor, etc.

The same situation in a hick town in Alabama with white folks would be equally intimidating.

So... to answer your question, yes people will judge you before they know you based on what you do, how you look, how you act, etc.
And... they aren't better than you, there just different.


It's basic human nature to pass judgement. That's why Grandma used to say birds of a feather flock together...

Answer 3

I try not to judge anyone before getting to know them... but sometimes it is harder than others. When someone tells me they take there clothes off for money I cannot help the stigma that comes with it. I know just because your a stripper does not make you a whore... but I am sorry but you do have a whore's job. Why not try some legitimate dancing? If you say "because the money is good" well then I say there is more to life than money... Unless you have kids to support or some sort of thing like that.... then take a pay cut for a while. There are a lot of good paying jobs out there and you seem like an intelligent girl so why not try some thing that does not require you to take off your clothes.
Mostly my problem with strippers is not that many of them are slutty... but more of how degrading it is. Anyone who tells me it is not degrading... well you can just stop right there because I am not going to listen. Taking your clothes off for money is degrading and it treats you like a piece of meat... which is sad because women have worked very hard not to be seen as just a body but a mind as well.

Good day.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I met my ex-fiancee in a club we both worked in. She was a waitress and then became a dancer. I have worked in a couple clubs and can tell those of you who THINK you 'know it all' that most of the girls there are either married, have boyfriends that they live with, or are single mothers. The chances of taking a dancer home from a club is slim to none. Most that I knew were NOT sluts. Some weren't even comfortable with what it is they were doing; but the $$$$ was so great they continued. If my ex didn't make $800-1,200/wk (back in the late 80's) it wasn't worth her going to work. She was beautiful, had a great body, loved to dance and was VERY good at what she did. She was VERY professional and DIDN'T lead guys on thinking they were going to 'get something' they weren't. I also had a friend that bought her house, her mercedes( and then porsche) AND put herself thru college by dancing. YOU tell ME who really need to stand back and look at their profession(s)...........

Answer 6

Yes indeedy I will. Your profession in this case says a lot about you - or at best about your finances.

By better, I mean better sense, better morals, better marketable skills, better opinion of men (if you've been dancing a while, you KNOW what I'm talking about!), etc. I don't mean better person overall.

I'm not going to moralize at you or insult you; I'm sure you get enough of that.

But face it, you're in a profession which is looked down upon, and rightly so. I don't mean I applaud or approve any harassment you receive, but really, you should consider doing something else. Stripping is degrading. Maybe not right away, but eventually you're going to become run down mentally and emotionally. Get out while the getting's good!

Answer 7

Talking to a DJ at a strip club. I see this all the time, the guys come in to look at the girls which makes them think that they are better than the girls because the girls dance FOR the guys. This automatically gives the feeling of power to the guy. Not much you can do about it at the club. But outside of work everybody is on the same playing field. And to think of it another way, you probably make more money than most of the guys going in.

Answer 8

There's an imaginery job heirarchy.

There's people who serve and people being served.

You are serving people therefore already in a lower category.

Your chosen career has no real prospects you cannot climb the ladder, also a negative. Bad hours. Degrading. Hmmm it's not looking good.

You judge people by first impressions, if I saw you and I saw you as a dancer, I would judge you as a dancer.

You should get fun at the stupid people who judge you for a low class job. Enjoy changing their minds

And keep enjoy dancing!!!

Answer 9

HOney... loook, people judge what they do not understand. If you are a hoe and carry yourself like one then that is what they will call you. I danced for years, it was hard for me to do it though.. cause I was a dancer, I did it for the $$$ and just because I liked to dance. There are dancers out here that use that as a "cover" to hide what they actually do .. trick, prostitue, whore.. what have you. They give dancers in general a bad name... Dancing is entertainment, not a way of life.


1........... **** what others think, obviously if they are not willing to take the time to know you as a person, rather than a "Stripper" tell them to KICK ROCKS

2........... don't make a career out of dancing, it is a good way to help through college, school, second job.. .however, you do'nt want to make a career out of taking your clothes off.... ya dig?

3........... Again, most will judge by the profession itself, becuase of what other women have brought to the profession.


Stay true to who you are... and work for what you want...

OH... did I say ............... **** WHAT EVERYONE ELSE THINKS!

Answer 10

I'm terribly sorry, but to be honest, I would base my opinion of your character based on your profession. When you dance and strip for money or not, is going to be lust on the recipients part. Which is really bad if the men are married, because this is a sin against God. As far as thinking I am better than you, no of course not. You are just as good as any other man or woman....
I hope I didn't offend you. I am just being honest...