Is it normal that my husband talks about other females at work with his guy friends? I mean I know men are going to look, thats a given. Is it normal to say something like "look at that a**" or something along those lines? And if its normal, how often do you do it? Im asking because soon I will be working with my husband @ another store and Im kinda worried about hearing what he will say, because all his married coworkers tell me what he says to them about other women.
2006-06-14 08:41:28 · 21 answers · asked by Mz_AmanDA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I say Im worried about what he will say, I mean about other women, not about me just to clarify :)
2006-06-14 08:46:21 · update #1
TY for all the answers so far. And I HAVE to work there for now I dont have a working car, no other choice and we need the money lol...
2006-06-14 08:50:03 · update #2
I am not a married man, but a super hip girlfriend.....a little advice is don't get so worked up and jealous of what he might say. Good god he is just a guy, and don't you ever say how hot a guy might be. He chose to be with you, and that should be enough for you to not worry over words, they are only words. Also try giving other women compliments when he says something about them, and be honest if she has a great rack admit it. It's not like you are admitting that yours is not, but it helps to be open and honest about things like that instead of throwing a fit, then no-one feels good about something so innocent as noticing someones butt. If he is any sort of a man he won't be offended if any guy should happen to comment on your butt or rack also. Good luck with the job and never take your home life to work with you it truly sucks for those who have to work with you.
2006-06-14 08:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by centralfiresafety 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do it and think that is totally normal. Its like when women go to the mall window shopping. The only way I can foresee this being a problem is if he finds something to say about every woman that enters the store. As for myself if an attractive woman walks by or is standing there I will take a second to admire her beauty and continue on with my day.
2006-06-14 15:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by ftnelson_guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can be very difficult to work with your spouse (regardless of what is said, etc.) b/c you never get a break from each other 24/7. That said, although most men (married or not) tend to comment to one another about the physical attributes of women in their vicinity, rarely are they ever acted upon in any way. Men are just more "physical" oriented, where women tend to focus on different attributes (men's wealth, status, intelligence, etc.). If you must work together, try not to focus too much and if you can muster it, try to play along (for example, my wife has accepted it and now points out women whom she thinks I would find "hot"). Its a matter of trust on both parts.
2006-06-14 15:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...thanks for the compliment of my questions. There needs to be a little more fun in this room. Now to answer your question. Yes men talk like that...its their god given right to appreciate the female. Just as it is the female's right to appreciate the male. Men are just more crude about it. Now I am thinking that you are a hot woman and here is why. If his friends are telling you what he is saying...then there must be a reason for it. I mean you just don't go around breaking the man-law of protection of the brotherhood right? So I think his friends are trying to get into your pants young lady. Now will he talk like this around you...only if he is as dumb as a bag of hammers. Reply old smooth for more advice....
2006-06-14 16:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Charlene H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be worried about it as long as it's just guy talk. His coworkers are idiots for even telling you that in the first place. Maybe you should consider working at a different store.
2006-06-14 16:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by BronxNYC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and I do the same thing around my co-workers and friends. It's all in good fun when your around the guys to talk about girls. Talking is one thing. Doing is another. I could make the comment about a girl being really hot and how I would like to have sex with her, but that doesn't mean I would ever do it. It's all just talk. Men!
2006-06-14 15:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by Scott C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal. How often you ask? How often does a good looking woman go by? I don't think you have anything to worry about though. He probably will be careful with you around not to offend you.
2006-06-14 15:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by waterfowlwidowmaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with this, I am married 10 years and LOVE my wife, have and will not ever cheat. We look we talk, we drool etc.. the real question is trust..
2006-06-14 18:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off i would not want to work with my wife, and yes this does happen alot, and is normal in a way, look and talk about it but don't ever act on it
2006-06-14 15:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by dew4you77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is completely normal. I don't do it often, but I do it occasionally, maybe once a week if not less. I'm sure if you are around, he'll stop saying it as much, or he'll do it when you aren't around.
2006-06-14 15:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋