when i have sex i cant have an orgasim. why? i never had one while having sex. Please help. is there something wrong with me?
2006-06-14 08:36:36 · 10 answers · asked by Lisa S. 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You must know, first and foremost, that you are not alone in this. Thousands of women have NEVER had an orgasm! Period. You did not specify whether you have had one through masturbation or oral sex, so I am not clear as to whether you have had any, ever. There is nothing wrong with you, let me assure you.
Usually penetration alone cannot bring a woman to climax unless the G-spot is hit just right. That is not always a given, either. A lot of foreplay and oral sex are great ways to get the blood flowing down there. Also, you might try a cock ring with a clitoral stimulator. Vibrating ones (probably) work great on stimulating the clitoris during penetration.
I an not afraid to share that I am a lesbian and have never had sex with a male, but I have been penetrated and I do know from experience that it feels so much better with clitoral stimulation!
Good luck!
2006-06-14 09:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by turtle_express16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lisa
I'm not a doctor but I had the same problem. Have you ever had an orgasm? Are you happy in your relationship? How old are you? Do you have multiple partners? Are you shy? How do feel about sex? Do you feel loved? Do you find yourself thinking about the most irrelevant things when your about to have sex? All of these were factors for me ,maybe i can help you?
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2006-06-14 09:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Me_She_Me_i_Her:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I'm not the official orgasm expert, I've had several more than my fair share, my ex-wife was in the same bucket as you, 'till one day we heard about this book called "The One Hour Orgasm" we purchased it< & it opened up a whole new universe to her that I wished she could've had much sooner, we might still be married. My usual advise to my most precious of female aquantices is this. . . go get the best natural dong (shaft, balls etc) some k-y silk-e, some smooth jazz, candles, and your best male counter part, and let the fun begin (lol) best of luck and let the good O's go deary !
2006-06-14 08:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by colvonryansa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know doctors do thing for that know. With me it was that did not like sex at all. It was that I truly hated him. I was thinking there was something wrong with me. It turns out the only thing wrong with me was being with him. Maybe it is your connection to the guy really think about your feelings. I enjoy it know if I really want to now. Hope you enjoy it soon. If you are sure it not your connection then go to the Doctor.
2006-06-14 08:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Nice girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The majority of women can't have them from having sex, they need clitorial stimulation. Go buy a vibrator and test it, you'll have one for sure!
2006-06-14 09:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get him to take you right to the edge a few times before intercourse. Then begin intercourse right when you are at the edge of orgasm and it should finish you off.
2006-06-14 08:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by waterfowlwidowmaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try more oral sex(on you, not him), ask him to stimulate your clitoris. Or, for a kinky change, you could. Most women find that being on top allows them to orgasm more easily.
2006-06-14 08:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you and your parter should try diffrent possisions,and maybe more fourplay,little gadgets to get in the mood,then the penatration,it might work.
2006-06-14 08:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by jake M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is the hardest thing to figure out time is every thing one night it will just happen w/o u thinking about it
2006-06-14 08:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....mayeb hes not doing it right....
2006-06-14 08:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋