There are times when my husband and I were laughing together but the next time, we found ourselves fighting about little things. Is this normal at all? I wonder if some of you over there who are married are experiencing the same.
2006-06-14 08:22:16 · 18 answers · asked by desolate woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
fight like fist fight? NO! Is it normal to disagree with one another, YES. Afterall you are two different people with different ways of thinking and then all of a sudden you are married to that person and living your daily life together. You better bet there will be arguments. If you never disagree you or your partner is a people pleaser type personality or you just figure its better not to ruffle any feathers and try to bury all your feelings, which in the end will blow up in your faces. If you are having a disagreement over a certain thing all the time, maybe it's better to seek counseling over the issue before there is too much resentment and the problem gets bigger. It's normal to laugh with your spouse as much as it is normal to have disagreements, it's life. How you handle them will definately determine whether or not you are married for long though. Best wishes!
2006-06-14 08:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by dixi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I took a class call Courtship, Marriage, and the Family. It was a great class. My teacher gave me the best piece of advice ever. She said, "Conflict is normal, it is how you handle it that can be bad." Everyone has conflict. I mean we can't be with our families without fighting. It you don't take the steps to resolve the conflict in a mature way (like talking it out) than conflict becomes bad. Also if you are not fighting at all conflicts are not getting resolved.
Now with my significant other we have either fights about big stuff or little stuff. But we talk them out and than they are done. So fighting over little stuff is ok. If you keep fighting over the same little stuff things are not getting resolved and things are not ok.
2006-06-14 15:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting is healthy. It keeps us individuals. How boring is it when you see a man and woman, and one or the other, is a "yes dear" kind of person. Give me individuallaity. I want to be in the room with a husband and wife, that when the husband says "ain't that right, honey"..........she says "you don't know what your talking about dear!" Have you ever noticed that sometimes couples begin to look like each other? That's because someone scarficed their own thoughts to become one with their mate. Bad idea! Plus, after a good healthy argument, the sex is always so much more intense. "Ya, Babee"!
2006-06-14 15:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You been talking to my wife??? That f-ing b*tch. Just kidding!
People have disagreements. Very normal. Learn ways to accomodate each other if it's a real problem. Don't take everything so seriously. Laugh about fights. Don't sweat the small stuff. It's ok to fight about him spending the mortgage on beer. Not ok to fight about the paint color of the bedroom.
2006-06-14 15:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is absolutely normal and you better getused to it because it is always going to be like that because after the arguments comes the best part when you have to makeup. bbuit if it bothers you so much thn try to give him some alone time we all need more freedom, more time to ourselves. An remember keep in between you two only
2006-06-14 15:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by chikis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean - been there plenty of times. Fights and disagreements are going to happen. Don't stress on it. Everyone argues and no marriage is perfect no matter what other people may say. My best advice, don't get family involved in your arguments. And when you do argue give each other some space to cool off before making it worse.
2006-06-14 15:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by kaije03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married and unless these "fights" became unbearable or violent it is perfectly normal to have small discussions sometimes even daily. But as long as they are easily resolved and the make-up sex is good everything will be fine and dandy, take it easy!!!
2006-06-14 15:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who has a perfect marriage? Men and women are different, they will tend to clash somewhere along the road.
Wife likes Coke, I don't mind Pepsi. Imagine when I bring Pepsi home instead of Coke. Petty? Yes. My wife says it is the principle of the matter.
Besides, I think my wife likes to hold a grudge awhile, then we "make up," if you know what I mean.
2006-06-14 15:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it is normal to fight...but not physically! if he hit you then you have to handle that, but if you are just arguing you can relax that is normal...just because you are married doesn't mean that you believe the same way or think the same way so you will have disagreements but just be careful i was in a relationship for 17 years and it started out just arguments and escalated to physical abuse... follow your instincts
2006-06-14 15:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by shammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I fight.But we also agree alot.I feel that as long as we fight everything is okay.I look at it this way as long as he cares enough to argue then I know he still cares about me.I would hate to be with someone that just sat back and let me have my way all the time.That would be sooo boring.
2006-06-14 16:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by m_l_p73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋