I have been married for over 8 years now. Have two kids and they are young but my question is should I move back to where I'm from? I have found #'s and voice mails that are from another woman. He says they are just friends. I just dont trust him he has cheated once and will he do it again? I'm always worried about it. Should i stay or leave?
2006-06-14 08:18:43 · 32 answers · asked by Youngstill 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To quote the Indigo Girls, "Up on the watershed, staring at the fork in the road - you can stand there and agonize till your agony's your heaviest load. You'll never fly as the crow flies - get used to a country mile... When you're learning to face the path that you'll pace, every choice is worth your while." There is no right answer. I stayed after the first two affairs, and after 17 years, I decided to leave. No one can answer this one for you, dear - check inside your soul - it's there. (I was never able to trust him again, sadly.)
2006-06-14 08:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by redskinscheer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand how you feel since my husband has done the same things to me again and again. I try to forgive him, but I have learned that it is hard since I can't forget how much hurt he gives me.
I have been married for over 7 years, and I have a 4 year-old girl. I am thinking should I leave or stay, too. Some friends of mine always tell me that my husband will continue to make mistakes. Some tell me that I should consider more about my kid. The children better grow up in a happy family with both parents.
It is difficult to change others personality. The only thing I can do is to change myself.
Whatever you make decision, you should think of your children and yourself. Trying not to hurt any one and yourself. I believe that you will find a way to solve your problems; also, your life will be better and better.
2006-06-14 08:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by eileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that he is cheating on you then you need to trust yourself. Sounds like you have already decided that this is what he is doing, and more than likely this idea is going to stick with you until you actually catch him in the act. So maybe it's time for you to put yourself first. Trust in yourself and if you really want to move back home then maybe that is where you need to be.
2006-06-14 08:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by stack_2384 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Ive been in the same position but only he was my boyfriend not to mention for 10 months. Yes Ive found girls number and stuff. Yes hes cheated on me before. So now its been 1 month that we broke up and hes practically a manhore. So yes I think you should leave. Its going to be hard but hey it better not to be hurt.
2006-06-14 08:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Vannah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If LDS is just too strict for you, you've gotten many different church buildings to pick from. I understand I could have a rough time with the no caffeine or alcohol rule. I drink very hardly ever however I nonetheless wish the alternative. You would possibly just like the Lutheran church. They use the identical bible with out the latter day saints.. I am catholic and that's very special from LDS. Good success! I wish you discover a church your completely happy with.
2016-09-09 01:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a tough decision to make. As a woman, who has also been cheated on, you know when they're creepin. We put it out of our minds and ignore all signs. I am sure it is easier to ignore when you have children together. Personally, I wouldn't ignore it. You deserve better and so do your children. You don't want them to grow up thinking that dishonesty is acceptable behavior. Also, you don't want them thinking that ignorance is bliss. Ignorance is a lot of things, but whoever said it was bliss was wrong.
Take your time you have a big decision to make! Good Luck.
2006-06-14 08:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your looking for us to say go ? :) Well that is what I am gonna say. Pack your things and the kids things and head on down the road. He then can have all the quality time with his "friends". File for a legal separation immediately so you can start getting child support. Even if he has friends he has obligations. Get the ball rolling before his "friends" end up pregnant :(
2006-06-14 08:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him to stop talking to them. Lay it down that you dont like other women calling around. I'd let him know that if it doesnt stop you are moving back home and I would follow through. Something to think about is talking to a lawyer so that you can be prepared for custody issues if he is going to want the kids.
2006-06-14 08:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by futurebecwar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 6years or months
And I cheated on him plus it broke up what
We had,anyways if you don't trust him leave him.
has he ever hurt you? if not and you still feel like you don't
trust him yes leave him you could do a lot better go fish for your
future mantry dating frist for two years o.k. don't worry if he
Cheats on you let him go find someone new....your feelings are
strong about not trusting him again thats very good keep going
With your feelings.....
2006-06-14 08:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat.
Move on with your life, be sure to get child-support.
2006-06-14 08:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋