I work at a car dealership selling and leasing cars. well to be honest i am the only female in building. so i get alot of sexual comments and stuff from the men here now some of it makes me laugh and some i really dont mind b/c i know the guys. but recently my owners brother came up to me and straight out asked if he could see my female parts.. that really took me off gaurd and i walked away. the boss was told of this incedent and i meet with him, he did say to call him on his cell phone if anyone or anything like that happen again. and that he would take care of it for me. but my thing is, should i just go find another job were i wont get labeld just b/c i am the only girl and the men here are 10 years old or at least act like it? i like my job i do but sometimes i just cant handle all the bull **** i have to go threw. what should i do?
2006-06-14 08:17:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
turn it around on them
tell them to have their wives/girlfriends/daughters to come to work with them and if they say it is okay the men can get buck naked and shake their mini-coopers until the sun doesn't shine but you still won't lower yourself to their level.
If you humor even one of them once by laughing at their stupid little remarks they will only continue to get worse.
2006-06-14 08:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by hot stuff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sending mixed messages. You're indirectly telling the men that SOME sexual comments are okay, but others are not. This kind of perpetrates the stereotype that women can't make up their minds.
You need to put a stop to ALL the sexual behaviour. There is no reason to change jobs or employers- you just need to change your attitude and approach to dealing with your male colleages. Next time someone makes a sexual comment, don't smile or laugh. Instead, say, "Actually, I would prefer if we didn't make sexual jokes anymore." If it happens again from the same person, say, "You know, that kind of sexual harassment could really get you into trouble. You should watch what you say." The third time, talk to your supervisor. You need to deal directly with the offenders and let them know that as a PROFESSIONAL you should not be subjected to sexual commentary.
2006-06-14 08:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jetgirly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threaten with a sexual harrassment suit, that will shut their traps big time. But then again, as being the only female, you gotta expect that it comes with the territory. Either let it go through one ear and out the other, develop an iron back bone, or tell their girlfriends or wives on them via recording their comments.
2006-06-14 08:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hello Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a former Navy CB - the only female in a 60 man unit - I know what you're dealing with.
In the end it's your decision, but I would suggest making your stand now. If you run from the situation, you'll never really learn to deal with it.
2006-06-14 08:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by weofui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just next time when someone tells you any sexual comment ask them if they were ever sued for sexual harassment. If they say no then tell them if they say one more word to you inappropriately they will get the feeling of it. Stand for your grounds. If you like your job why would you want to change it?
2006-06-14 08:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell all this to your boss. i've delt with female employees in my kitchen, and trust me at a professional kitchen women are treated like **** until they put their foot down. the ones that just quit never came to me with their problems. you're coworkers might not take you seriously, but they'll take the boss seriously. i don't have a problem ringing the necks of my employees. but the only way i know there's a problem among them is when they come to me. i'm too busy. just tell the boss.
2006-06-14 08:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Chris N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats how men are... they all want to get in your pants... same thing happons at all shops, oil change places ect.
the girls deal with the clients and get picked on... i think its the mentality of that type of person... becides nobudy likes car salesmen!
try an office job that has nothing to do with cars
2006-06-14 08:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sue the bastard. he's treated you like an object that exists for his personal desires.
i worked in a bodyshop for a while. i laughed about it a little, but that makes it okay. when i stopped laughing and made it clear that they shouldn't say anything to me that they wouldn't say to their sister, it stopped.
2006-06-14 08:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by Alana S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋